Hyphenated last names vs not!

Depends on the names.. mine would end up with every letter in the alphabet and I'd need a stamp for everything I'd have to sign so that wasn't an option regardless lol. But some ppl still do it or they make their maiden last name their new middle name as well

@corrine I. So true!!! I didn't even think of complicated future last names!

If I hyphenated, I would have 19 letters to my last name, not including the hyphen. No thanks!

I did move my maiden name to a second middle name though.

I'm considering hyphenating my name. My son (from previous relationship) has my last name.

Im still on the fence about that as well. We were married on July 15, 2017. I have a daughter from a previous relationship & she has my last name. Not sure what to do.

I have some coworkers with hyphenated last names. I personally don't get it either. I think it's truly special to take your FHs last name. It will be funny for me as an elementary teacher though because I'm going from an extremely popular last name (Wilson) to a 13 letter hard to pronounce Italian last name lol

And my FH is the last namesake for his last name so I feel like it's even more special for me to share that.

I believe I am going to change my middle name to my maiden name. I'm still going back and forth. Although my name wouldn't be extremely long by hyphenating it, I feel that it definitely makes things more difficult. To each their own though.

My parents have been happily married for 40 years and my mother never changed her name. She thought it was sexist and archaic (i.e. Mrs. is the possessive form of Mr.). When my uncle married his wife didn't change her name. either. The cousins were all given hyphenated last names. I went to school with a lot of people with hyphenated last names and it never bothered me; not even once.

I considered hyphenating but I think one of the names always kind of gets dropped. Then I considered leaving out the hyphen and just having two last names. If you do it that way you can use them both legally or just one sometimes. In the end I took his name but you better believe there was some serious crying involved. Like in the courthouse. Lol! I love my name. Plus I am the last one with the name. Too many girls in the family. I will continue to use my maiden name at work which will help ease me into the change I hope.

No hyphen just use his last name.....he is giving it to you

I'm not a doctor or a lawyer or a CEO... I don't need a hyphen. But I am making my maiden a second middle name. I like my original middle name and don't want to drop it. I'll go by his last name socially.

If I do change my name it will be hyphenated. I have been who I am for 47 years with this name and I personally don't want to change it. I am just as proud of my family name as well.

Not everyone wants to take FH name @Roxie, nor should we feel pressured to.

I'm hyphenating. Will use my maiden name professionally and my DH name socially. Haven't changed it yet due to plane tickets next month.

It's my second marriage; I'm hyphenating because I don't want to not have the same last name (albeit partially) as my son from said first marriage. Also, I've established the last ten years of my career with my current last name.

Lol me when DH tried to "give me his name" like, am I supposed to give him mine now too or is this a one sided gift giving event?

Roxie, not every woman wants to take her husband's last name. It is a perfectly valid choice to keep your last name. "He is giving it to you" - WTF does this even mean??

OP, you do realize that many women don't change their names at all, right? Hyphenating and taking his name are not the only options. I had no desire to change my name. I don't agree with Alforev that it's "special" to change my name. What is with these posts?

I'm hyphenating mine only because FH was kinda hurt I didn't want to take his last name. I definitely don't want to completely take his last name, and I love middle name so I don't want to drop that. I'll still go by my last name professionally (and probably socially as well). Really only hyphenating as a compromise for him.

I actually always thought I'd be a hyphenate. Part of me doesn't want to give it up. My dad passed when I was a teenager, and I feel like losing my last name is losing some part of my dad.

However, when our venue sent us our contract it stated that a honeymoon suite was reserved for Mr and Mrs Eric ____, and I got positively giddy seeing that, haha. So I may add my current last name on as a second middle name.