Danielle
Savvy September 2019

Hyphen or Changing Last Name?

Danielle, on July 28, 2019 at 10:40 PM

Posted in Married Life 129

I'm really stuck on whether to change my last name or to hyphenate my last name. If I hyphenate, my last name will be fairly long at 14 letters. What is every one else doing? Any tips?

I'm really stuck on whether to change my last name or to hyphenate my last name. If I hyphenate, my last name will be fairly long at 14 letters.

What is every one else doing? Any tips?

129 Comments

  • 8Bitbek
    Devoted October 2020
    8Bitbek ·
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    Well I kind of have to change mine, because when I proposed to him I said, "I like your last name, can I have it?" That and I just don't like my last name because I was bullied as a kid. I love my parents very much, but I'm looking forward to leaving that name behind.

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  • Laura
    Devoted January 2020
    Laura ·
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    I’m changing mine to his. He wants to hyphenate but I think it’s too confusing for kids and stuff.
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  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
    Yoice ·
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    I changed it fully. I didn’t want to at first and I thought about keeping both but decided to go ahead and make the full jump.
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  • AEW
    Dedicated December 2023
    AEW ·
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    If I hyphenate my name, I'll be right there with you!

    But I've never really liked the idea of the hyphen so I'm just gonna change it. I've been practicing saying it so it won't sound so odd to my ears lol

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  • E
    Devoted August 2020
    Elle ·
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    It is a personal decision. I am hyphenating, because it is my personal choice to keep the name that I was given at birth. I like my last name a lot too, and I think it's cool! It's super long, and with the hyphen, it will be even longer and horrible sounding, but I don't care. People can still call me Mrs. My-husband's-last-name and not add on my family name. I just want to legally keep my name in some way shape or form.

    Edited to add: My last name with the hyphen will be 15 letters long, and I am ok with that!

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  • M
    Dedicated October 2021
    Millicent ·
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    It's a personal decision and really on you know what is right for you. Some women have a strong attachment to their name and won't change it, and some love the idea of it symbolizing becoming one unit, and neither of this is wrong.

    I'm keeping my name. I don't want to hyphenate my name either.

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  • A
    Expert August 2019
    Aliciabilly2019 ·
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    Im changing mine to me i love the traditional last name change to his last name. To me to hyphenate it is to long to write on everything specially if you plan on kids all there school papers you have to sign dr papers bills etc
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  • Ellen
    Beginner October 2020
    Ellen ·
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    I’m having the same trouble! I love my last name and I would have a hard time parting with it. If I hyphenate, my last name will be 12 letters long 😔 but it maybe worth it to keep my goofy Italian last name!
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  • Woman On The Go
    Savvy December 2015
    Woman On The Go ·
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    I think on my marriage license I have First, Middle, 2nd Middle (Husband'sLastName), MyLastName, although I didn't legally change my name. It's complicated because I use my middle name as my regular name, so I couldn't drop that. My grandma's name is my first name, so I can't let that go either. My entire name also conveys my Irish heritage. The whole changing names thing seemed way too complicated and unnecessary, so we both kept our given names! We're family, whatever we're referred to as.
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  • Shelby
    Savvy March 2021
    Shelby ·
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    Im hyphenating because I have a son from a previous marriage and I don't want him to feel like the odd ball out, like I did growing up and having a different name then the rest of my family. I want to share the same name as my son. When I married my ex husband I took his name because I like the tradition, but this time around is different because of my little one.
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  • Jenna
    Beginner February 2020
    Jenna ·
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    I’m going to take my husbands last name. The hyphen last name is just too long for me and I want to really embrace the idea of becoming Mrs by taking his last name. I’m excited and can’t wait to change my last name
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  • Cameo
    Just Said Yes August 2019
    Cameo ·
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    I am an elected official and this was a hard decision for me. I was sure I was going to keep my last name for professional reasons, but after my FH voiced his feelings I decided that since it really means a lot to him I will take his. That is the only reason I considered not changing my name.
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  • H
    Super September 2019
    H ·
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    I'm definitely changing my last name. My whole life I've always wanted a family with the same last name. Neither myself, my mom (dn dad) or my sister's have the same last name. Now, with me changing my last name, my family (FH and our 3 kids) will all have the same last name and I am STOKED!
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  • Emily
    Beginner September 2019
    Emily ·
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    I really like my name. But I feel like it's respectful to take his. So for our one year anniversary I'm going to get my name changed.
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  • Pia
    Super May 2021
    Pia ·
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    Changing last name. Taking his.
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  • Mandy
    Savvy August 2020
    Mandy ·
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    I am taking his...we both have German last names...5 letters each, 1 syllable...so hyphenated would sound strange. Plus, people have always mispronounced and misspelled my last name. His is much easier. I would also like to share the same last name as our children.

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  • M
    Beginner November 2019
    May ·
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    In our culture,(I'm hispanic) we keep our own last names. Always has been this way for generations. The importance of our last name only comes into play when we are passing it on to our kids. They will have the dads first last name and the moms first last name. Ending up with 2 last names. So this way you always know where you come from. My first last name is Mier from my dads side. And my second last name is martinez from my moms side. This is why men want boys because their last name will go first and be passed on

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  • Shanile
    Beginner August 2020
    Shanile ·
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    Changing my last name
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  • Linda
    Just Said Yes December 2019
    Linda ·
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    I’m changing my last name AFTER my passport expires.
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  • Rachel
    Dedicated December 2019
    Rachel ·
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    We're both taking my last name because my fiancee likes it more. We thought about hyphenating, but I didn't like the way it looked. Too long for us. And we wanted to both have the same last name once we were married, so we decided on both using my name.

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