Danielle
Savvy September 2019

Hyphen or Changing Last Name?

Danielle, on July 28, 2019 at 10:40 PM

Posted in Married Life 129

I'm really stuck on whether to change my last name or to hyphenate my last name. If I hyphenate, my last name will be fairly long at 14 letters. What is every one else doing? Any tips?

I'm really stuck on whether to change my last name or to hyphenate my last name. If I hyphenate, my last name will be fairly long at 14 letters.

What is every one else doing? Any tips?

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  • Danielle
    Savvy September 2019
    Danielle ·
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    Yea, I don't really have a reason other than the fact that I like my last name. I like his too, but I just feel like my name is part of me lol - I'm probably just weird though. Your wedding is a week after mine! Are you ready?

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  • Samantha
    Devoted December 2019
    Samantha ·
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    I’m considering hyphenating! I love my last name but I want our future children to share a last name with both of us. I think hyphenating gives you the best of both worlds. I also work as a health care provider and my patients know me
    by my last name so that factored into my decision as well
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  • Danielle
    Savvy September 2019
    Danielle ·
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    Yes, I completely understand you on not wanting to lose your individuality! I just feel like my name is part of me. Plus, it has been my name for so long! lol I feel like a dork, but I really just like my name. I like his too and Im excited to take his name, but I just don't want to lose my individuality also!

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  • Affiron
    Beginner January 2020
    Affiron ·
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    I totally understand. I feel the same way. I’m like: I’ve been this person 25 years lol
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  • A
    Savvy June 2019
    Alex ·
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    It took us a few months to come up with something that didn’t sound silly. His last name is Nielsen and mine is Budden so we are taking Niedden. Neither of us wanted to give ours up, so this way we get to keep a little of both Smiley smile
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  • Laura
    VIP November 2019
    Laura ·
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    I’ve been debating whether or not to change my name. My parents had the same last name when they met, so *everyone* I’m related to has MyLastName. So a big part of me is in no hurry to give it up. Also, I’m established in my career with MyLastName. How do I get everyone used to calling me a new last name? And realizing it’s me?
    But. FH won’t admit it straight up but he really, really wants me to change my name. I think he’s going to be hurt if I don’t change it. But he says it’s my choice.
    And hyphenating is out. I’ve heard too many stories about trouble with places using one name or the other and it screwing with credit & such.
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  • Danielle
    Savvy September 2019
    Danielle ·
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    I never really thought about the hyphen causing issues. That is definitely something to consider and think about.

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  • Kayla
    Dedicated November 2020
    Kayla ·
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    I don't think there is a right answer, but here's what I'm doing: I grew up with a hyphenated name my whole life (Corredera-Wells), and I hated both the length and the fact that I didn't have the same last name as anyone else in my family. So even though I'm not the hugest fan ever of my FH's last name and I hate losing the Hispanic part of my name, I'm changing it!

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  • Lauren
    Just Said Yes November 2020
    Lauren ·
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    I’m doing this too!
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
    Samantha ·
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    Neither! I’m keeping my last name.
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  • Danielle
    Devoted October 2021
    Danielle ·
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    I am hyphenating my name. I have already had my Facebook name that way but there is a reason why I’m doing that. I have no issues with last name alone and it’s not about feeling like I’m losing my identity but my father died when I was 14. 3 days before my mom and dad were to be married so she never had his last name. For me. Hyphenating it feels like I’m keeping a piece of my father with me forever but also taking pride in my husbands last name. The only annoying things is changing your name and signing things but for me it is important to keep that part of my dad with me
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  • Kelley
    Dedicated May 2021
    Kelley ·
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    I’m changing my last name. We already have guys on my side of the family to continue on the family name. And I can’t wait to take FH’s last name and continue on his name with a boy one day, hopefully!
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  • Danielle
    Devoted October 2021
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    Im German, Stossel and he’s Korean but adopted with a Italian last name, Babboni. I like Danielle Stossel-Babboni. It doesn’t sound bad to me at least lol
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  • Andrea
    Super October 2019
    Andrea ·
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    That has some pizazz! Mine would be
    Helmboldt-Trimarchi 😬
    I don’t know if I could try to spell that for the rest of my life!
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  • Danielle
    Devoted October 2021
    Danielle ·
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    Lol yeah I actually liked the way it ended up sounding and it’s not too hard to say. Stossel is like fossil with a S and T instead and Babboni is Ba-bone-e is how you would sound his out. However I cannot even figure out helmboldt, I’m thibking helm-bo-olt lmao! And the other one reminds me of tree March chie which may be close but damn girl! I couldn’t do that either 😂
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  • D
    Savvy June 2022
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    Wow. I'm really in the minority. Nobody's changing their name here. The way I see it, I have a name. In 2019 why would I need his? Some might argue "for the kids", but I still don't think that's a valid argument. My son has his father's name, and I don't. My fiance hates his last name and had thoughts that he would take his wife's name so his kids wouldn't inherit it. But we're 43, and we don't plan on having any more. If it happens anyway, the kid would just have my last name.

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  • Andrea
    Super October 2019
    Andrea ·
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    Yeah! Helmboldt is Helm-bolt (like the a bolt thy holds something together), but you’d be amazed at how most people pronounce it! You’re close on FH’s name. Try-March (like the month) with an I (eye) at the end. It’s a mouthful! I like how Stossel-Babboni flows!
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  • Danielle
    Devoted October 2021
    Danielle ·
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    That definitely is a mouth full! My best friend changed her last name and that thing is like 20 letters and is that weird shot like DiGianntonio. Lmao. I can never spell it right to this day. I have to look it up 😂
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  • Cassie
    Dedicated November 2020
    Cassie ·
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    I will be changing mine! I have never liked my last name!

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  • Eyonna
    Devoted May 2021
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    I'm still debating as well; leading more towards hyphenating. I'm an only child and I have an attachment to my middle and last name for family reasons; as of now I'm hyphenating but who knows when 2021 rolls around and after we're married I might want to fully take my FH's last name. Like everyone else has said, its a personal decision / preference...will see when the officiant announces us for the first time how it feels and sounds Smiley smile

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