Husbands on Night Shift

My FH is a deputy and works nights so I know exactly what you are going thru! He bought me a puppy last christmas so that has helped alittle bit! I try to keep myself busy with the gym or trying out new recipes!

Since he gets home at 5:30 am I started leaving him little surprises and a little note that says "so glad you're home....now come and cuddle!". I leave the either on the kitchen counter or where he takes off his uniform.

It was alot to get used to but now it makes me cherish the time we do have together even more than before!

Yea it def is hard to get use to. We adopted a dog over a year ago and she is my shadow but sometimes it gets old LoL. I am thinking about the gym too! Glad you know how I feel!

Haha yes! Titan(our dog) is my shadow until his daddy comes home and then he forgets all about me! haha I have actaully taken a couple classes at JoAnns and I've taken up scrapbooking. Just something extra to keep me busy. The scrapbooking actually helps alot because I am looking at pictures of us having fun and such and it helps me think of those times rather than him not being home. Oh and I totally know how you feel! feel free to PM any time!

I LOVE SCRAPBOOKING!!! I just never want to spend the extra money but maybe if it was a class I would love that! Thanks I will check that out!

I used to work overnights ... and I would come home when he was leaving for work, eat breakfast with him, sleep all day then get up do dinner with him, then he would lay down from 9-10 with me and nap with me before work, when I left he would go to bed. It worked out really well! We made time to see eachother

Heya! In the same boat. My FH is a Philly cop and he's on a 2 week rotation of days and nights. It's good because we both have time to ourselves to just be lazy or do whatever we want. I take advantage of the time and do the cleaning without getting sidetracked or cooking with the freedom of not feeling stupid if it doesn't turn out good. We have Bailey (our lab) so she keeps me company too. I see it as a positive thing instead of a negative so it's easy for me to enjoy it. Do you have a hobby?

As for the little things you can do..... Notes is the easiest thing. I've done a note like Courtney and said "welcome home...now come give me a kiss" or something like that. When he's on nights we take showers at separate times (me-at night when he's at work. him-when he wakes up from work---unless he was in a yucky house, then when he gets home) so I got bath crayons and write him little notes in the shower for him to see when he goes. I also make him his favorite spinach dip since

When he’s on nights, he plays his xbox a little to wind down and it gives him something to munch on. I put the bag of bread and chips, etc. in a sealable bag and put it where the xbox and tv are so he gets excited knowing there’s spinach dip in the fridge.

My FH travels for work. So sometimes I don't see him for a week at a time My borther also travels, so I asked my SIL what she suggests. She made a good point. She said "Use this time to do your girly things like watch movies your FH would hate or find a craft to start". So that's what I do. I watch my reality shows or wedding shows, I play with make up, I make dinner plans with girlfriends. It's not easy, I still miss my FH, but I use it as "me" time. Hope that helps.

I'm in the same boat! FH works over nights. Right now we don't live together cause we're waiting to close on our house, but I am super nervous to be in a house by myself all night long. It's not even so much being in a bed by myself, because i'm used to that but being in our house alone at night... And he's not a big dog fan, but I told him he might need to get me one! I hope I get used to it and quick!

@Lisa - I like that bath crayons idea, that is so cute!!! I was thinking about when we move in together to leave him little notes on the fridge or somewhere before I leave for work (cause we would be missing each other by about an hour)! Love that idea though!

You girls are awesome! I do love working out and since we moved in I have drifted from that and making sure the place is always clean, and keeping the house in order. I would love to get back into the gym or even scrapbooking! Scrapbooking can be so much money though and sometimes when I get home from work I am pooped! I do love my lifetime movies! Lisa I love the ideas of the crayons and the snack idea thank you!!! And DH is a 9-1-1 dispatcher so the Hubz are in teh same field kind of lol!

My FH worked overnights up until about a week ago. He is now a Director at his job which came with him having the flexibility to pick his shift. He is home now but I missed him a lot when he was gone.

My FH works nights as well. It is tough. He has recently started his own business as well so, when he isn't sleeping for his night job he is either at the computer handling quotes and orders or at the shop working. He is almost never home anymore and that is hard to get used to. We go out of our way to spend even a few minutes together. We will sometimes go out for breakfast in the morning when he gets home or he will bring me coffee and we just talk. We make it a point to sit at the table for dinner and have a nice family dinner together.

My advice is this: Try all kinds of different things, if one doesn't work, try something else. The most amazing part is that you have the rest of your lives to make each other feel important and loved. Take advantage of that as often as possible. When he is sleeping, take that time to do everything that is all about you. Or make plans for the two of you for when he wakes up.

Good luck

FI works night shift while I work days. I don't get a lot of "free time" though. I get home and see him for about 15 minutes before I head to the gym and he's gone by the time I get back to shower, eat, and basically go to bed.

Jennifer that is so true! I rush home after work to see him for about 5 minutes before he walks out the door. When he is sleeping, if there is no cleaning to do, I leave and run the errands that need to get done so there is peace and quiet for him to sleep

DH works third shift as a machinist so he goes out to work at 9:20pm Sunday- Thursday. When we first moved out together I was really bummed about being by myself at night. I had lived with my parents before that so I wasn't really upset about not having someone sleeping next to me but it was more of the fact that it was just me in our apartment. About a month after we moved in we adopted our friend's puppy since he was having a hard time taking care of him and that made a world of difference for me.

Now we have a house & Jax (our dog) doesn't physically sleep in bed with me but its nice knowing that he's in the house with me. I usually am only up for another hour after DH leaves for work so I try to just relax watching some TV. On the weekend nights that he works overtime I try to make plans with friends or my parents otherwise I just sit around watching TV until I'm sleepy which is sooo boring.

Mine's a traveler. He's gone about every other week from Monday-Thursday. It's really hard, but we get through it by Skyping and I do use that time to be with my friends, watch Sex and the City (LOL), and my dog sleeps with me when he's gone! (The dog can't sleep in our bed when FH is there because he's a light sleeper and my dog moves around a lot in the night, haha.)