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Akirah
Dedicated October 2019

Hurt friend, part 2

Akirah, on September 6, 2019 at 2:25 PM

Posted in Family and Relationships 25

So I recently posted about my friend who is hurt I didn’t invite her to my bachelorette party...even though it was a small sleepover with just my 3 bridesmaids and me. In further conversation, she stated that she would’ve understood if I wanted a small bachelorette, but was hurt that I didn’t...
So I recently posted about my friend who is hurt I didn’t invite her to my bachelorette party...even though it was a small sleepover with just my 3 bridesmaids and me. In further conversation, she stated that she would’ve understood if I wanted a small bachelorette, but was hurt that I didn’t mention it to her beforehand.

Anyway, she’s declining to attend the wedding and even though I knew it was likely that she’d decide to not come, I feel pretty hurt about it. I understand the pain of not being included, but it feels like she’s made this very much about herself. And maybe I’m being dramatic, but it also feels like she’s ending our friendship over this? We’ve been friends since 7th grade, so this is significant to me.

Anyway, I’d love any encouragement right now. I just feel sad. It’s a sad situation.
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  • Akirah
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Lol. I think you hit the nail on the head. And you’re right; I don’t have time to psychoanalyze. It is what it is. And what will be, will be. ❤️
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
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    You hurt her and now she wants to hurt you, that's all this is. You shouldn't feel guilty in any way. You said in your prior post that you acknowledged her hurt and apologized and that's all you can do. At this point, it's time to move on. You will be surrounded by so much love on your day, you won't even notice her absence. I'm sorry you're in this position, but maybe it's better that you're seeing her true colors sooner rather than later.

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  • Suzie
    Super October 2021
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    Sorry to hear this is still going on, I remember your initial post about her. It sounds like she’s being really petty, and to me, justifies why she wasn’t chosen to begin with. If you all were really that good as friends, she should understand and make the drive. It sounds to me like you’re better off without her. It will be sad for the time being, but in retrospect I think you’ll realize this is really for the best. We’re all adults with important things going on. Nobody has time for high school drama. Keep your head up, girl. You’re about to marry your person!!

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  • Akirah
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Thanks. Yes, I am very excited to connect with the folks who are planning to celebrate with us...I trust that they will bring all the love we’ll need that day. Thank you!!!
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  • Akirah
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Thanks girl. Yeah, you’re right. I want to let her deal with her feelings as she needs/wants, but that’s for her to worry about not me. This is hers to sort thru, not me. Like you said, we’re busy adults!

    And yes...I marry my person in 28 days! Yay!!!!!
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