Hurt feelings over wedding invite declines?

Just breath. it's ok to feel bummed. but listen to your married friends, and focus on the Yes responses!

I am wording my RSVP as Wouldn't miss it for the world and Will be celebrating from afar, just so I wouldn't have to see a bunch of No or declines...

Hope you get lots more yes cards!

It sucks. Two of my good friends can't make it. One is pregnant with twins and has a high-risk pregnancy.

The other wants bariatric surgery and would need to do it the day before my wedding because of her work schedule (she's a teacher and wants Spring Break to recover). That one hurt the most, but whatever. I'm still going to be married and she's going to miss a fun party.

You girls are right. I wish I'd thought of a better way to word the RSVP card but honestly when you order them you don't think about what may come back on them! I guess I am bummed most because I am one of the last ones of my friend group to get married (I am 30 in the Deep South) and I went to a lot of these weddings and they can't make it to mine, but granted I realize we are not all 25 and people have obligations. I thought getting married after 30 would be easier but this is a surprising new setback!! Sure the ones that live 5+ hours away prob can't come, but the ones that live in town? So aggravating and hard for me not to take personally!

*hugs* I feel ya. but the ones that do come are gonna have one hell of a time!

I LOVE declines= more $$$ in my pocket

Haha, I was just discussing with mom that the less people the more fun the reception is right? Happy guests! #positivespin Just airing these grievances does make me feel better. As of today I have about 90 attending, 27 not and my deadline is 1/10. I guess it could be worse? Haha, it could ALWAYS be worse!!

Hehe one of my friends put this on her RSVP card, and I LOVE it!

- accepting with delight

- declining with regret

- accepting with regret

- declining with delight

Hahaha I'm just picturing what it would be like to receive a RSVP and have one of the last two options selected...

Well I've been told 20 percent won't come. Also a lot of people think the deadline date is the date you drop the rsvp card in the mail

Could be way worse :-)

sounds like you may be making some phone calls this week to get that final number. Don't worry, keep breathing and Have a GREAT wedding!

Hklo, a friend of mine did that. We "regretfully accepted" was kinda funny,

I haven't sent mine out yet but I'm so looking forward to the declines, lol.

Thank you girls for the support - this is my first bridal forum post and I am so glad I put all this down in writing. You know you can't really talk to the fiance because wedding talk makes them tune out immediately. It is way too easy to get swept up in the minor details 30 days out...AND take everything personally!

I know I am being ridiculous. Everything will be fine but it's very easy to forget that right about now!

I'm looking forward to declines as well. Less money to pay out and we will have the people who care about us most there.

Can i have some of your decline luck? I want 40 people to decline. this wedding is way bigger than i wanted.

with 300 guests im sure you will still have a very large party!

Shannon, yes you may! After venting, I honestly do feel a lot better. I lived in DC for 6 years and a lot of my friends are all over the country. Is it okay if most of our people are our parents' friends? Haha. After all, they are footing the bill I have 9 BM's so honestly the people I must have next to me will be there and that is most important than people I won't get much time with!

Just be happy people are bothering to RSVP and that you aren't having to chase up a response!

We too ended up with more people at our wedding than we wanted. I was happy to get declines but of course I wanted them to mostly be from the people I didn't know (i.e. his friends and family!) HAHA!

We need 50 to decline to fit in our venue. So I'm crossing fingers when that times comes

Lol, I think I agree with a few of the ladies on hear in saying that we're actually hoping for declines. I guess when it's a larger wedding there's a different expectation, but we've invited 125 with an expectation of only 90 guests accepting. We even have a secondary list so if more guests decline than expected we can invite more.

I understand. I had someone who I had thought was a good friend decline for no apparent reason. It hurt. It seemed so unapologetic, I think because it was so unexpected. Generally we have an idea of who can and can't attend. Those who can't usually try to provide an explanation. When they don't, their declines can be a bit of a shock.

Anyway, at least they had the courtesy to decline. You didn't have to wonder when the "respond by" date had passed.

I rather get a no than a no show