Hurt feelings over wedding invite declines?

I think what makes it feel cold is that it is on paper. If they were talking to you on the phone or in person it wouldn't feel so in your face.

I think its bc you hear if they live u they will come. That doesn't mean if they don't love you if they can't come. Truly focus on the yesses.

Im sorry your feeling down. I am in the process of taking a course to become a Wedding Consultant. Im curious as to find out how long in advance you sent out your invites? Are there a lot of people that are coming from out of town? Do you live somewhere that the weather can be bad (cold or snow)? How many yes's have you received?

Quite honestly it probably has to do with the fact that your wedding date is not only a Friday, but Valentine's day. That doesn't mean these people don't care about you, and they're likely going to send you a gift still because they feel bad about not going.

I would be upset if it was close family or friends saying no, though.

I can understand why you feel this way, but focus on the positive...less people = less money spent (although it probably isn't a concern as you wouldn't have invited) They all love you I am sure, so don't feel sad.

Shannon, my wedding is Feb. 1st, a Saturday. Anyway, it's not close friends or family, it's more like aquaintences but I just take everything to heart and automatically think of worst case scenarios in any situation. The anxiety does not get better as we go. 29 days!

Meredith, try not to focus on the no' s, especially if they are from people you regard as acquaintances rather than close friends. They probably do have legitimate reasons and if you are surrounded by your relatives and close friends, your wedding will be wonderful even if some of your invitees aren't there.

Awww I'm sorry. It truly is how it goes. It is better that they tell you no now than you pay for their place and they don't show.

I agree with Shannon. It's a Friday and it's Valentines day. I've gotten sarcastic teasing from several of mine and FH's single-and-dating friends about having mine on that weekend. Don't worry! It's nothing personal. I had to RSVP no to a great friends wedding last summer because I was going to be at my brothers wedding and all I put was "no". She knows I love her because I DO!

Chin up and enjoy the fact that your wedding is in 42 DAYS!!

Hah girls I am getting married Feb. 1st! Not Valentines day. I feel much better today, you know how the month before turns into a roller coaster of highs and lows and yest. Was a low. I really do appreciate everyone's kind words. Today I actually got sweet emails from a couple friends who can't make it and I realize it is not because they don't dislike me, they won't be in town-- I know, so ridiculous right?!

Whoops I'M SORRY!

I guess deep down inside you want them to WANT to come and be freaked and beg you for a seat to what is going to be the best party in the world on the happiest day of your life and you'll never be able to get rid of them and you'll have to shoot them in the face like zombies to get rid of them. LOL or is that just me?

HAHAHA all joking aside, don't feel bad. I really hope I don't either, just look at the bright side. YOU SAVED MONEY.

Why be hurt.... LESS PEOPLE YOU HAVE TO PAY FOR. Sure you really wanted them to come thats the reason that you invited them. But its ok... ITS YOUR DAY and if they cant make it to celebrate OH WELL entertain the folks that can make it and HAVE A BLAST.

I understand. I just sent out my invites on Monday, and I got my first response today via FB message - NO. I didn't reallize that St. Patrick's Day being the next day would be such a big deal. But I'm not truly heartbroken because this is an acquaintance that I've become pretty friendly with lately, not a close friend or relative. But still..... St. Patrick's Day being the next day is an excuse to not come? I wonder who else will use this as an excuse.

Sorry I'm ranting but seriously, because of our ages, we've been to EVERYTHING for our families and friends. Lines are being drawn in the sand and we are hurt.

We've already decided that we will never, ever, EVER give gifts or put ourselves out for the people on FH's side of the family who are choosing Disney above us. It's about respect and values. Before this happened, we sent one of the peeps not coming a baby gift ($200) and we are still awaiting a thank you note three months later. We did get a Christmas card and a birth announcement. She had time for that. They don't share our values. That's fine but they'll get as good as they've given and that's nothing. We are hurt and angry. Sorry, vent over. Rant over.

I really need to get off WW and get my butt moving. Movers coming back today at 1p. Lots to do.

STBMrsLittle, but it's not just "our day" - it's a day we wanted to share with people we care about. What hurts most is learning that they don't care at all.

There are only two times that people will really make an effort to be there for you: your wedding and your funeral. We'll be dead at the funeral. We've been there for all of them, consistently. That is who we are. It hurts when it's not reciprocated. It hurts that it's freaking Disney when they've been there twenty times already. I mean, really?

It hurts.

@Jen, totally lame excuse. And don't you kind of think less of the person because of it? I mean, St. Patrick's day, really? It's your wedding.

Ok, at least being all fired up about this is giving me energy to finish my move. Thanks, ladies, lol!

Oh man, I'm fired up now!

Is it the wording on your RSVP that is bothering you? Does it just say 'no'? Because certain phrases get to me as well, like "Not attending", "No", "Declining". I had to put "Regretfully declines" just to make myself feel better, haha!

While it may hurt (I totally understand what you're feeling!) when someone says "no" - they are not saying no to you...they simply are unable to enjoy and celebrate that day with you - focus on those who are able to make it! If you have a close enough relationship with those that are unable to make it, invite them to a bridal shower (if you haven't already). or make plans with them after the wedding to gush about your special day! If they are just acquaintances, then don't sweat it. A bonus is it will help you save on the cost of the reception!