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How/where do you say cash bar or no bar?

Kathleen, on May 25, 2011 at 6:44 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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FH and I aren't sure which one we're doing, but we know we'll either have a cash bar or no bar. We will be providing a champagne toast to all guests and the debate of is a cash bar/no bar tacky is another issue Anyway, I want to inform guests before the wedding that there will not be an open bar because I don't want them unprepared when them come to the reception, but how and where should I put this? Does it belong on the invitation? Or what?

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Latest activity by Shellie, on May 25, 2011 at 10:30 PM

Master August 2010
FMS, the barefoot wife! · on May 25, 2011 at 6:52 PM
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If I remember correctly, I put the bar info on our website. I listed it as 'Cash Bar after 7PM' Free drinks for cocktail hour and wine provided for toasts is the norm in our area, so everyone knows it's 'cash bar' after dinner.
You can put something along the lines of
"Champagne Toast provided at 8 PM
Cash Bar 8:30 to LAST CALL TIME"

If this isn't common in your social circle/area, be prepared for some upset guests. I'm just warning you! I personally, would never be offended to pay for booze at a reception, as long as cocktail hour and/or wine for toasts is free.
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Master August 2012
Kathleen · on May 25, 2011 at 6:56 PM
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Yes, cocktail hour (forgot to mention that!) and the toasts will be free. and, at least all the weddings i've been to in my area recently either had cash bar, or no bar. i personally don't drink, so i obviously wasn't offended. but I was just wondering how to "warn" people.
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FMS, the barefoot wife! · on May 25, 2011 at 6:57 PM
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If it's common in the area, great! I put it on our website, but I never thought to put it on the RSVP info. I wouldn't think it was tacky if it was on the RSVP card/Extra info insert. If it was on the invite, then it would irk me a little.

Our extra info insert went like this:
Incase of inclement weather, ceremony will be held at PLACE

Cocktails: 5 PM
Dinner: 6 PM
Dancing: 8 PM

Please RSVP by DATE
Call NUMBER, or RSVP online on our website, directions, accomodations and all things wedding are also on our website
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His · on May 25, 2011 at 6:58 PM
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Well said barefoot wife!
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FirstLady<3 · on May 25, 2011 at 7:08 PM
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I just got an invite and the bar info was on the rsvp card..
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Master August 2012
Kathleen · on May 25, 2011 at 7:16 PM
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I was figuring I would put it at least on the website. I'm just afraid that not all guests will visit the website and see it.
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Genevieve · on May 25, 2011 at 7:17 PM
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Spread it word of mouth and put it on the wedding website.
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Master October 2011
Carole M (a.k.a "old tart") · on May 25, 2011 at 7:48 PM
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I agree with Genevieve. I would also spread it by word of mouth and on the website.

You know what I was thinking. How do you mention if there IS an open bar? In my area, it is the norm, so on our invites it reads, "Dinner and dancing will follow."

On the RSVP cards, I wrote, "A celebration of dinner and dancing will immediately follow. _____ Seats have been reserved in your honor." Is my wording off?
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NJ Bride · on May 25, 2011 at 10:13 PM
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I agree to spread it by word of mouth and on the website... unless your invites are extremely informal.
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Shellie · on May 25, 2011 at 10:30 PM
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I'd put it on the web page....
I'm adding a card in my invites that says something along the lines of, "for my information visit or website at ......"
Thats also where I'm putting info about babysitting and out other 'receptions'
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