How Would You Uninvite Someone Who Invited Themselves??

You just don't send her an invite

This has happened to a lot of us, including me. You have some good responses available such as:

"Guest list is still in flux"

"We are having a very small wedding"

"Due to venue and budget constraints we have had to pare the guest list down"

All followed by "But thank you for your good wishes. We are honored you would want to celebrate with us."

You don't have to uninvite her.

She's just not invited.

I agree with FMM - just don't invite. You can still invite your other friend from work. If the uninvited person asks, just say that unfortunately due to budget/venue restrictions, you had to cut down the list.

ETA - Tina's extra comment about the thank you is good too!!

Don't talk about the wedding with her at all and when it comes time to send invites don't send her one. Let the people at the office know that you are not inviting everyone from you office and ask them to please not discuss the information with anyone else at the office.

Someone mentioned in another 'co-workers inviting themselves' thread that to be safe, when you invite someone from work, you hand-deliver their invitation and mention "of course, we want to keep the details private!" so they don't bring the invitation to work and show it to everyone in the office before you get a chance to talk to them.

People are ridiculous. First thing people said at work when I was engaged was "you better invite us to the wedding!".

Jokes on them.

Just don't send her an invite. I don't talk about the wedding at work either because nobody from work is invited. If anyone asks I say it's all coming together and we are very excited.

Thanks, ladies. I was thinking of using the venue cap excuse. I just wasn't sure about how to handle it because I do want to invite the other coworkers and whether it's too late.

The problem is that she knows about the venue because she constantly asks about updates on the wedding. In the beginning I thought she was just interested in the planning for whatever reason. Now, she's "on a diet for the wedding," "has asked friends of theirs near the venue if they can stay over that night," and all kinds of stuff. She's especially excited because our wedding date is her wedding anniversary. Other people at work have asked about the wedding, but they were polite and enlightened enough to know that they aren't necessarily invited. They were just interested and were happy for me. Just to put it in perspective, her "personality" had almost gotten her fired from the company. She disagreeable a lot of the time and a know-it-all. But my boss felt bad for her and took her into our team last year. Seems like all of us has had to deal with this.

I just don't get people. Why do people want to go to a wedding of someone they aren't really friends with? I personally would hate that and feel so bored.

Next time she makes a comment like she's assuming she's coming to the wedding, just tell her "well, it's actually going to be a small wedding for mostly family" and then change the subject. The longer she keeps making comments and plans, the worse it will be. And don't engage in planning talk, even if she asks. "Oh, I'm just excited to get married. Really what we're working on is redecorating our dining room, what's your favorite place to get wall art?" or something like that.

@ Rebecca. You're right. I should never have indulged her in the beginning. I feel bad to have "led her on" but I didn't realize she would totally jump the gun on being invited.

But from now on, if she she asks about the wedding again, I will say that we had to change all our plans and I have to invite some OOT family that we weren't initially intending to invite (which is true), making our wedding a family wedding. And I will just tell the coworkers I do want to invite not to say anything more about our wedding. It shouldn't be be hard because they are the supervisors and probably don't want to cause a stir within the team over a wedding.