How would you put an age limit on your invitations?

There's no need to tell your guests who isn't invited. Write the names of those invited on the invitation and leave it at that.

What will you do if a guest has an 11 year old child and a 12 or 13 year old child. Invite one and not the other?

Put the names of the invited guests. Are you not going to invite a family if like the pp said they have a 13 year old and an 11 year old? That would be so awkward if someone said hey your family is invited but find a sitter for the 11 year old while your 13 year old can come. Why the 12 year old limit? That's sort of an odd age.

I don’t agree with the other comments because pushy people will go ahead and invite their younger children. Just write “no children under 12 please”

Our wedding is no kids ages 3-10. However our venue has a very strict child policy. We are basing our decision on this and putting an extra document in the wedding invitation with the venues guidelines. This is also on our wedding website.

We will be saying something along the lines of “please join us for our adults only reception.” I don’t care so much if younger kids are at the ceremony, but I absolutely do not want young kids at the reception. There was so many younger kids running rampant at my cousins wedding, it’s the last thing I’d want.

To the ones asking about if a family has a 13 year old and 11 year old what would happen, etc. We chose that age because we don’t have that issue on our guest list. We have families that either have small children 10 and younger or teenagers. I don’t think weddings are a place for kids.

I know I need to list it on the invitation because I have had friends who have had this problem. Sent the invitation addressed to only the parents (Mr. and Mrs. so-and-so) and they end up RSVPing for the whole family or just showing up with their kids. People do do that and then it’s awkward.

You don't put it anywhere; an invitation is for who is invited, not for who isn't. Just address the invitations to those people who are invited. If someone tries to RSVP with the name of someone who is not invited (e.g. someone under 12, simply respond and say something like "I'm so sorry for the confusion but the invitation is only for you and ___. We'll understand if that means you can't make it. Please let us know by ___ date."

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People do that even if you write "No kids" on the invitation, and two wrongs don't make a right.

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While listing it on the invitation - the names of every person invited - should be enough (in a perfect world!) you are absolutely right in thinking that some will still try to RSVP for non-invited guests. Unfortunately no matter what you do there will still be people who try to "cheat your system."

On our invitations, in addition to listing each individual name on the inner envelope, on the RSVP card we made it super clear how many people were invited. We had a line that said "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor" (we filled in the number by hand) and then below that we had "___ of ___ will attend," again filling in the second blank ourselves. If they still tried to RSVP for a family of six when only two were invited, it was clear that they were doing it intentionally and not "oh, I didn't know, oops!" Between the number of names on the envelopes, and the two spaces where we mentioned how many people were invited from their "family/group," it was pretty easy for them to be aware of what was going on lol.

Now of course, we did still have people try to reply for a plus one when they didn't get one, or add on a family friend because "their 14 year old son wants to bring his girlfriend" and we still had to reach out to people and have the awkward "look we really want you to be there but...." conversation. It's inevitable - no matter what you do, people will still try lol. But we did find this little option to be fairly helpful!

Just address it to who is invited. On the RSVP card put "We have reserved ___ seats for your party" and fill it in with the number invited. However, if someone told me my 12 year old could come and not my 10 year old (example), I 100% would not go. I would just say 18 and older or 21 and older.

View Quoted Comment I like that idea! Putting “we have reserved ___ seats.” That’s a great idea! Thank you!

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When people RSVP for others not on the invitation, you reach back out to them and tell them the invitation is only for those named on the invite You definitely have the right to do this if someone tries to invite more than who is named on the invitation.