How to you refer to your future spouse? Fiance, etc?

When talking to someone like coworkers, I usually just called him by name as they had met him a few times. To people I didn't know very well, I referred to him as my fiancé and occasionally my soon-to-be-husband. Once we got married, I started calling him hubby and now it feels strange to say his name to him but not others. Weird how that works.

I hate referring to my fiance as FH on forums. But I'm also not particularly fond of referring to him as my fiance in real life.
In general, I refer to him as my fiance to strangers. We just moved and are meeting our neighbors so I mention that I just moved in with my fiance. Anybody else, I refer to him by his first name or as a we instead of my fiance and I.
My friends call me out when I call him my boyfriend, so sometimes I refer to him as my betrothed.

View Quoted Comment Omg "betrothed" I love it 😂.

Yea I obviously use his name with people who know him. But we have a business together so I very often find myself referring to him to people who have no idea who he is to me. He has already started calling me his wife (to strangers) but that feels a little odd seeing as he doesn't wear a ring yet. Almost like it's a pretend wife lol.

Did you guys know that technically future wives are supposed to call FHs "fiance" and FHs are supposed to call FWs "fiancee"? Besides the fact that this is antiquated and only considers straight couples, what guy says my "fiancee"? My FH said it on the phone to the insurance company after we discovered this little difference because he's always trying to be "correct" and I just thought it sounded so bizarre so we nixed it. I feel weird saying fiance because I just feel too old for it. (I know, it's a rediculous insecurity and I shouldn't care.)

I don't like fiance. My FH was annoyed in the beginning when I would still say boyfriend. Like you said, now both feel ridiculous. I usually just refer to him by name.

My FH started this joke about wanting me to call him my 'hiance' because 'He-ance' and I'm his Fiance lol and he came up with this about a month after we got engaged. Now we just go 'hmm have I been demoted?' If we call each other boyfriend or girlfriend haha. It's hard to think that in a year and a half, it'll change to husband and wife. Wow, even typing that out seemed weird haha

I just call her my fiancee, it felt weird at first, but that's what she is. Introducing her as my future wife would be even weirder.

Still say partner or girlfriend to strangers. It was weird but necessary to ask every venue if a same sex wedding was going to be a problem for them. We did have one negative experience with a guy who had nothing to do with the weddings when we inquired. He said they were booked up for 2020! Someone else QUICKLY chimed in and corrected him saying "no we're not, let me get Sandy to help you guys".

I actually love calling her my fiancee! I usually do that or just her name. Trying to take advantage of the few months I get to call her that though before it changes to wife.

We’ve had a long engagement to get used to it so fiancé actually feels really natural now!

Fiancé doesn’t feel any weirder or unnatural than boyfriend. In fact, I prefer it. “Boyfriend” sounds young and juvenile to me and I felt like I was still in high school when I had to call him that. I couldn’t wait to officially be able to call him fiancé.

Fiancé and fiancée are pronounced the same. It’s just that the word is French and they have male and female nouns, so fiancé is for a male and fiancée is female.

I said "partner" while I was getting used to saying "fiance". Then as soon as I got used to fiance it was time to switch to saying husband!

I'm in the same boat as SummerBrideInAutumn. Even before we got engaged, I felt silly saying "boyfriend" because we are in our late 20s and have lived together for years. I will say fiancé when introducing him to someone new (and same for him), but otherwise I just use his name. When communicating with him, we rarely use anything. Sometimes we'll say something like "hey cutie," but I often don't use a person's name in conversation unless trying to get their attention.

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I agree with you completely!! Before we were engaged we bought a house (or rather he bought a house and i just helped financially) and it did seem super juvenile to say "My boyfriend bought a house" people would always give me a "gold digger" reaction even though were in it 50/50 my names just not on the loan. so i call him Fiance every chance i get

I love saying Fiance!... It took a little getting used to but I am very happy to be engaged and love having a Fiance (btw, I am not saying anyone is unhappy about it), so I enjoy I calling my FH that... that is just me.

My FH has always called me his wife to friends/co workers. I never gave him the title of "husband" because I was like boy you better put a ring on it if you want me to call you husband... LOL if I am talking to a total stranger I call him Fiance. If I am talking to a bill collector, phone company, mortgage company etc.. I'll call him my husband and If I am talking to family I call him by his name "Mark"

View Quoted Comment Pronounced the same, just spelled different

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This is pretty much my situation. He started referring to me as his "wife" the minute we got engaged. But I just couldn't call him husband--not until he actually is. So, even though fiance feels wrong, I'm trying to go with it.

But talking to businesses, utilities, I always refer to him as my "husband." Weird.

Fiance has never felt natural to me. I’d been calling him my partner for about the last four years, so I mostly stick with that. With strangers/businesses I sometimes just say husband. Sometimes I mix it up and call him my man or my better half. Anything to avoid saying fiancé haha.

Exact same here!! Neither of us like the word fiance because it reminds us of that annoying lady in the Seinfeld episode!! I refer to him as fiance only to people who don't know him (otherwise just use his name) only because I always felt like saying boyfriend somehow made our relationship sound less serious to other people. He still calls me his girlfriend though so who knows. Words are weird