How to word request for money?

Hi Kathie ~ welcome to WW

There is really No Way to physically Write a request for money in a polite way.

You let it be known by word of mouth.

All you do is not register for gifts, have a small registry, and just tell your wedding party and parents that you wish to receive money for your honeymoon. You let word of mouth get the news around that you want a nice honeymoon. That way when your family and friends are talking about your wedding and they ask "What do those crazy kids want?" your parents can pass on the word that you are looking for money.

if you like, check out this discussion on what people thought when there was mention of cash wanted by the bride and groom. You really shouldn't put Anything inside the same envelope as the Wedding invitation about gifts or what you wish to receive

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/what-does-no-boxed-gifts-mean/ef96bb8b403be79f.html

Set up a honeymoon registry at honeyfund.com or one of the others.

word of advice tho-set up a tangible gift registry as well, some people have gotten offended at the honeymoon registry and I was told to set up a gift registry as well. We did just a few things.

I don't think there is a graceful way to request money. My fiance and I didn't need gifts either, but since we are going to Hawaii for our honeymoon, we registered with the Royal Hawaiian in Oahu. It allows our guests to purchase excursions and or meals for us. We then put our wedding website on our invitations so that if people log on they can see what we are registered for. I really believe that you should let people decide for themselves what form they want your gift to be in.

There really isn't a non-tacky way to do it. The easiest thing you can do is not create any registries, and hope that people will deliver the cash you can try having your immediate family and WP spread the word, but even then it's a little risky... best of luck!

The absence of a registry is usually hint enough. You can also have a registry with very few gifts except for essentials like sheets and towels. Most people who know you will know your situation and presume a cash gift is best, anyway. And as everyone else has said, if your parents and siblings know you want cash, they'll tell those who ask.

Just don't do a registry, although don't be surprised when you still get gifts, even if you were to ask for cash on the invite, some people just like buying gifts!

There is no non tacky way to do that.

just mention to everyone you know how you are hoping lots of people give money so that hopefully you can afford a honeymood. And if people as where you are goin on honeymoon say you arn't cause you can't afford it at this point. You'll see if you get any money at the wedding and if so you will determine where you go.

that's hinting and the best you can do

There is no way to do that besides word of mouth and a tiny little registry with things you really do need. I'm not really even crazy about honeymoon registries (and most of them take a fee anyway.....)

FH and I are using word of mouth, I suggest NOT putting it in your invitations in any way. Plan for the honeymoon you can afford on your own and then anything you do get as gifts can either reimburse, or expand your honeymoon. Hope things for well and welcome to WW

Also, return receipts are your friend!

Yeah, but returns can be a huge pain and a waste of guests's shipping money. like people said, though, registries tend to work best with guests, so why not find a compromise and use a cash gift registry like depositagift.com? it was great for us. then you can create a registry of whatever you want: honeymoon, home, furniture, etc. we used it and found that it worked really well b/c:

a) we didn't have to mention a request for cash on invitations -- just list the url on your wedding website like normal

b) the registry worked the same as those at the dept store, so it was easy for guests

c) people liked knowing how their money was going to be used and getting to choose what to contribute towards.

We had a registry at first, then we found out we're expecting a few weeks before we got married (DH refers to baby as "Our little wedding crasher") so we deleted our registry. We got a few things off of it at my shower, but everyone else got the hint and we got money from them instead. We did get a couple of gifts from some of DH's family that were personalized/homemade items like a blanket from his aunt with our names and wedding date and a decorative plate with an Irish blessing on it (both of our families are straight up Irish hahaha). Those were wonderful things to receive and obviously wouldn't have been on the registry anyway.