How to word "placecards" for those who did now RSVP

Their seat is out the door! jk jk...maybe.

Seriously, anyone who doesn't RSVP doesn't get a meal or a seat. To me it's that simple. It's rude to not respond to a wedding invitation. It is NOT rude to not leave seats open for those rude individuals who did not bother to respond to their invitation.

I wouldn't give them a table. It's their fault. And when they come in and are looking, they can be the ones who feel stupid. The staff can inform them that there is no table and to come back after dinner lol. I wouldn't do something nice for somebody who can't take 2 seconds to RSVP.

No RSVP, no seat. End of story.

I think I'm going to have someone at the door to help people find their seats, even with a seating chart and to instruct that person to tell non-RSVP guests that unfortunately they have not be reserved a seat for dinner. Done. They can stand at the back.

While I agree with everyone else that they shouldn't get a seat, I see why you are doing it. Maybe just say something like "Tables 20-22 available to those without an assigned seat" or something like that? Idk...I like the way you wrote it in your post better haha

Why would you reserve a place for people who didn't RSVP?

If someone can't take two seconds to write their name down on a card and stick in it an already addressed and stamped envelope and drop it in the mail, then they apparently don't want to come.

No RSVP= no reserved spot at my wedding.

I agree with the others that I wouldn't save space for those who don't RSVP and don't get back to you when you contact them personally once the RSVP date has passed. If you'd like to save them a seat, I would label tables 20-22 as "Open". You don't have to go into any greater detail, and they'll figure it out.

Yeah, uh, I'm not making special arrangements for people who didn't RSVP. I will not promote that kind of behavior with a table of their own and a free meal and drinks. If they show up without turning in an RSVP, they will face the embarrassment of finding someone who works at the venue to set up a place setting/pull up a chair for them, and must suffer the consequences, and be forever referred to as "THAT person."

I would do my best to follow up with any unreturned RSVPs prior to the wedding and not worry about reserving a seat. Most 5' round tables can seat 8 comfortably and 10 people tight. If it turns out there is a crasher or someone who just showed up, a seat or two can be shoved at a table seating 8.

I agree with everyone, I am not having a meal ready for people that do not respond. We also will NOT be pulling up chairs to a full table. That is not only disruptive but rude to do to the people that did take the time to RSVP. When I was previously married, I had a few people that did RSVP not show up and I was out that money, there is no way in hell I am planning or paying for people that dont RSVP

It's not just pulling up an extra chair at an already full table. It's adding a place setting, too.

I agree with the idea that you *shouldn't* have to worry about those people, but I'm 10 days out from my wedding and we have about 30 RSVPs (people, not cards) unreturned--and 20 of those are FH's mother's and grandmother's guests who we had to add because they insisted. I don't want to completely write the people off, especially since I don't know them and can't confirm their attendance at all. I've given FMIL a list of the outstanding RSVPs three times already and asked her about them even last night and she hasn't gotten back to me. That's two tables full of people!! So I'm thinking I'll do the same as OP.

Under the table numbers you should just write: Reserved for those that could not bother to return the self addressed and stamped RSVP card

Only because I feel like being snarky and passive aggressive right now

HAH! You're more generous that I would ever be. Basically, it will be known that they didn't RSVP because there won't be a seat for them. This is what I emailed to those who didn't RSVP by my date:

April 3rd, the RSVP date for our wedding is upon us. As of today, we have not yet received your response. If you would kindly let us know if you will be attending, by Friday, April 11th, it would be greatly appreciated. You can reach us with your response in any of the following ways:

- Email:

- Phone:

- Or you can RSVP on our website by selecting the following link:

Additionally, we have been able to extend the hotel's deadline for the group discount rate to Monday, April 7th. If you plan on booking a room for the night, it must be done by this date to take advantage of the discount. Additional hotel information is listed on the invitation or can be found on our website.

If we do not hear from you by Friday, April 11 we will regretfully assume you will not be attending and we will not be able to accommodate you.

If you have any questions please contact us.

Thank you!

What you need to do is call the guests who haven't RSVP'd by the deadline and ask them if they are coming. It's annoying that you have to do this, but it's also necessary and in the long run it makes everything easier on you. From what I've read, make sure you have at least 3 extra places available for "surprise guests" other guests may bring along...just in case. This means you will have to not only have an extra table available, but also extra food ordered from the caterer and extra dishes, etc rented.

We got a response from everyone, one way or the other. Nobody showed up unexpectedly.

Ok, if they can't RSVP, then they don't get a reserved table. And they can ask someone where they should sit. If you keep an empty table they should be able to figure it out.

@OTW and Natalie, that's the problem--I don't know these people's e-mail address and I don't want to have to pull their number from the phonebook--they're FH's mother's and grandmother's long lost friends, absolutely no relation to me! This shouldn't be my problem! Ugh!! And when I asked FMIL about one of the couple she said "oh I'll drop a card in the mail to remind them." This was yesterday that she said this. I told her it's too late to go the mail route and she really needs to call them. For another couple, she said she'd call FH's grandma and have her call her friend because that friend (who was also invited and RSVPd) is friends with this other couple. I'm sitting here like, if you don't even have their contact info and don't feel comfortable contacting them, WHY DID YOU INSIST WE ADD THEM TO OUR GUEST LIST?!!

/rant. Sorry, getting a little frustrated haha