How to tell coworkers they aren't invited???

Hmm.. I am inviting my coworkers.. We all get along (yeah, there are some that I would rather NOT invite, but our department is fairly small.. about 12 people) and I spend 40 hours a week with them! I think it's fair to keep talking.. then if they ask or suggest that they think they'll be attending then bring up that you guys are keeping it small.. I think a lot of people understand that coworkers don't usually get invited to each others' weddings.. Especially since it's so early for you, I wouldn't bother bringing it up right away that you're not inviting them.

If they ask, which it doesn't seem like they have yet from your post, I would just tell them it is close friends and family. How will they know FH is inviting his coworkers unless someone tells them :-) I've been at my job for a couple of months and I'm not inviting anyone I work with even though they all know I'm getting married. You're certainly not obligated to invite them if you don't want them there!

You invite who you want there.. You don't have to have an explanation for anything.. It's your wedding.. I had a few coworkers ask me the same question and I was like well my dad is paying for everything and I can't invite everybody I know.. They really didn't need to know that but it's none of their business..

Well, the good thing is that I've been saying since the beginning that we are keeping it small, so they already know that part. I think I'm going to slow down on the wedding talk, but not mention they aren't invited just yet.

I would just stop talking about your wedding at work

I do not talk about the wedding at all at work. I would say no more than 3 or 4 know but not exactly when. I didn't even mention at Christmas with family. A few asked and I gave them quick short answers. Since we have been engaged my answer is still " when you get an invite in the mail" then you will know