How to seat divorced parents at ceremony

Just put a person between them. He can still be in the front row. There should atleast have 4 other ppl in that row

Far away from each other

FH's parents are divorced and they are both sitting in the front row (divorced 28 years and remarried, but FMIL still hates him). Just having a space between them.

I think I'll have it like this: Dad, Brother, Mom, Mom's Husband.

Everyone PROMISED to be civil. I will be weepy enough...if shit hits the fan I may turn into the Hulk....which would be no bueno for everyone.

At my brother's wedding, both sets of parents were bitterly divorced and everyone was remarried. My parents decided they didn't want to sit in the same row (especially because grandparents also don't get along and we couldn't fit 8+ people in one row). So my dad agreed to sit in the second row (he and my mom both walked my brother down the aisle).

My ex-SIL's parents both sat in the front row, next to each other (as if they were married) and both walked her down the aisle. Their spouses sat in the next row.

I think you need to talk to your parents separately. Ask them:

Ideally, where would you want to sit? Where would you want ex-spouse to sit?

If I told you that your ideal wasn't possible, what would you suggest?

Would you be okay sitting on the other side of the aisle with future in-laws? (Note--you are not asking if the person would be okay with the OTHER person sitting with the in-laws)

If your mom says, "I want to sit in the front row and your father can't sit in the same row," and refuses to offer any alternative arrangements, then I think you need to talk with your dad. If he's more flexible, then I'd actually go with his preference. If he's just as inflexible, I would have them both sit together in the front row, on the same side, as punishment for being assholes.

"Appropriate etiquette" says that your dad should be seated on the aisle, one or two rows behind your mother.

Personally, I'd have him sit on the opposite side, next to your FH's parents. That way, he is not snubbed by being put a row or two back AND he will get to see your face during the ceremony

Erin beat to me what I had to say

My best friend's parents were never even married and they do NOT get along AT ALL.

However, at her wedding they both gave her away and were able to be civil for a few hours.

C'mon people. GROW-UP.

The problem with sitting him in the second row is that there's a hedge lining the aisle on both sides, so he'd have to go all the way around. Anywhere near my mom and he'll try to hold her hand or touch her arm and it makes her really uncomfortable. And I'd sit my brother between them, but this past Christmas, my dad punched my brother in the face (yeah he's a real peach but he's my dad). Needless to say, they don't get along either. Also, FH's dad has passed, so I'm afraid that sitting my dad next to his mom might look weird. I guess I should stop caring and just do that.

I agree that they should grow up. I just don't want to punish them... or myself.

Almost 100% of the time, all the parents and stepparents sit in the front row, even if they are spaced out a bit. It's 20 minutes, they can suck it up.

MOB, MOB's date, FOB's date, FOB

^That puts 2 human buffers between them.

In my opinion they both will be sitting in the same row. They dont have to sit next to each other. Dont have to look at each other. Dont have to say nothing to each other. Its not about them on that day and time. They should be able to be adults and sit and behave for their daughter who they had together.

Your mother is seated. Your father walks you down the aisle, lifts you veil, kisses you, and takes a seat on the front row. During the ceremony, they act like the parents they are -- not spouses. They both knew that they had a daughter who would, most likely, be getting married one day, so it's not like they haven't pictured this situation in their minds. There will be an atmosphere at the actual wedding that is quite different from the rehearsal. I doubt very much that this will be the time they choose to start playing passive agressive games.

At the reception? As far away from each other as possible.

How about sitting your mothers together on one side, and your father on the other?

Its easy to say someone should act like an adult, but it doesn't actually mean they will.

I'm so sorry your parents are behaving like this! I hope they hold it together for your wedding, and all I can say is, "Good luck when the grandkids start coming!"