How to respond to uninvited guests who assume that they will be getting an invite to the wedding?

How about, "I really wish we were able to invite everyone, but with this economy we're forced to keep the wedding small, I hope you understand and we'll be thinking of you!"

Who can argue with that?

There is so much time before the wedding they might just forget and if they ask once invites go out just say that the space limited how many people chould be invited and with the family as big as it was you were forced to cut the list way down. Most people will understand. I was cut from a friend I was very close to for years because he placed a rule that if he hadnt "hung out/seen" the person in a year then they were not invited. I fell into that because he moved and with school I hadnt been able to make it over to his place

Yep! The "intimate/economy" response is the way to go! You may have to repeat yourself a few times so that the stubborn people will get it. You will get people not only pressuring you to invite them but others because they want a reunion and their own party. lol comes with the territory...

Thanks for your advice. I mean the wedding isn't until next year but we constantly get this from people as if we are getting married in the next couple of months. Geez! I can just imagine how its going to be the closer we get to the date. Or even yet, when some do not receive an invite.

I got a lot of that very early on from everyone. Now people who said "I better be invited" are now saying they wont be able to come and no one has even gotten and invite yet. LOL

Things will change.

Stick to the ecomony story and they will leave you alone.....Believe you me......I have used it some much, I have is memerozied!

And unless your a 100% sure all 125 you already invited will come you can count on usually half coming... so if you go over the amount even by a few im willing to bet not everyone will show up...

Yeah, you can always have a "B List"...just don't tell them they are on it ;-) the intimate/economy line is a good one...

I actually told a coworker a couple of weeks ago "Shoot... you ain't invited"....after it came out of my mouth I realized how rude it was ;-) but luckily he just laughed it off... oops!

My reception venue only holds 110 and my FH's family is a big Italian one. That usually helps folks understand that not everybody is going to get invited.

We had the same problem and we're trying to cut down our list quite some. My dad even added people to my sister's list she didn't want there. Unless you're having help paying for it, honestly tell them that your budget could only accomodate a small guest list, but they will be in your thoughts that day. It's hard. Believe me, my list was at 450 guests before I made a lot of cuts, and now we're trying to keep it between 35-100 for only family and closest friends. If you haven't sent them a STD or Invitation, they may forget about it.