Savvy September 2019

How to list deceased family on wedding programs?

Rebecca, on August 18, 2019 at 1:38 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 5

Wedding is coming up on September 14, 2019 and I'm working on the programs. ( A little behind but it's working out).

So... all of my family is gone. FH's family is mostly still here with the exception of 3 grandparents. In total, there are 11 people that I need to list.

My side:
Mom, Dad, Maternal Uncle, Maternal Aunt, maternal grandparents, paternal grandparents (never really knew my Dad's side or was close): total of 8

His side:
Paternal grandmother, paternal grandfather, maternal grandfather: total of 3

I would like to list them on the programs, but just not sure since there are so many. Do I list them like: Mrs. first name last name (mother of the bride), Mr. first name last name (father of the bride), Mr. first name last name (Uncle of the bride) so on and so forth?

Would that be acceptable?


Latest activity by Clíodhna, on August 20, 2019 at 11:10 AM
  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I'm saying this completely out of love. I don't think it would be a good idea to list all your deceased relatives on wedding programs. Your wedding is a time of joy and celebration Smiley heart

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  • L
    Lady ·
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    We had a "memorial" paragraph on the back of our programs that said something like:

    "We want to take a moment to remember those who could not be with us to share in this joyous day, especially *deceased grandparents names*. I did not go further than parents and grandparents.

    I would probably do something like that (it's not a focal point) and avoid listing parents on the inside of the program. Or if you're listing processional order, just list those that are actually walking.

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  • Florida Marlins
    Expert October 2017
    Florida Marlins ·
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    I have to agree 100% with Cher. It is a time of love, joy, and moving forward. Please don't let it have a funeral or memorial service vibe.

    Everyone will know who is deceased, let's not bring attention to it.

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  • Rebecca
    Savvy September 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    Thanks everyone for the guidance. After thinking about it, the program sort of turned from a wedding program/happy joyous theme to one of a funeral program (in a sense).

    I played around with it a bit and this is what I've come up with

    Program revisionHow to list deceased family on wedding programs? 1

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  • Clíodhna
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2030
    Clíodhna ·
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    I think this is a perfect way to make mention of those who can't be there while keeping the tone aligned with a wedding program. Good job, Rebecca Smiley smile

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