How to Keep Your Dress Out of Sight?

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That is what I had in mind. Don't even make it a temptation or possibility. Sometimes there just is not enough room to even just keep it out of sight at home either.

View Quoted Comment Oh, no, my husband wouldn't have looked. And even if he did, I doubt he would have any sense of what he was looking it in terms of shape/cut of the dress. I stored it elsewhere just because there was no physical closet space to store the dress in our apartment.

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Yes. I was thinking that also. Maybe see a bunch of lace or other material but not what it is like on his bride. It is just an added step to keep it out of his sight. We can go too far with these things or just do it a bit for fun.

This is a concept I have never personally understood. A dress on its own on a hanger doesn’t resemble what it looks like on a real body with accessories. If your fiancé does see it, they won’t remember details 5 minutes later, and not all couples are into the “surprise element” because some fiancés are part of the dress buying experience. Also not everyone has a parent within driving distance who can babysit it if there is not enough closet space for a garment bag.

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Part of it is the superstition. Who knows where that came from? But we make the choices based on either participating with our fiances in everything or having the surprise. I think it is always a surprise on wedding day though

I don't think it really matters. Was just wondering what others were doing.

View Quoted Comment It’s from prehistoric and medieval cultures where brides were traded and sold as property transactions. In Judeo-Christian prehistory, it dates back to brides who wore thick veils that were not removed until the marriage was consummated, which was when they first met each other in many situations. In medieval culture, bridesmaids were introduced to the population and they wore the same dress as the bride in an attempt to confuse evil spirits who had the intention of tampering with the wedding by stealing the bride away. How it evolved to the interpretation and execution we have today is anyone’s guess.

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I was wondering more specifically to the groom seeing your dress -- or is it in your dress? -- before the wedding. I ran across another point that bridesmaids (and others) would grab at pieces of the bride's dress to get luck. This was replaced with the compromise action of tossing just the garter belt. It always comes down to what we feel like is needed to make it really feel like a wedding and reception. There are obviously things that some of us would like to go away.

View Quoted Comment That’s where the dress surprise originated. It’s evolved over time where people think A is the real origin while B is the truth.


The bouquet and garter (not the belt) removal originated in the medieval period where it was required for clergy to witness the couple consummate their marriage. In order to speed up the process, guests would rip the couple’s clothes off. To prevent clothing from being destroyed as they didn’t have huge closets back then, just a few outfits to rotate until they fell apart (and nothing ever white as only royalty could afford one time use clothing), the groom would undress the bride and toss her clothing to greedy guests. It had nothing to do with luck originally but centuries later that misinformation was adopted as truth. In today’s society, it’s easier to remove a small article of lingerie rather than an entire dress which will get you arrested for assault and indecent exposure.
Follow the traditions you like and skip those you don’t.

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Wow. there are always so many layers to these things. thanks for clarifying it. Definitely bypass that original tradition.

Thankfully we don’t live together so it’s really easy for me to keep it from him. If we did live together it would just stay at my parents’ as that is also where my party and I will be getting ready at on the big day. 🥰💕💕

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That works out perfectly then. It is right where you need it.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely. Another thing you could do (if you have enough faith that is) is give it to your MOH to hold onto. That is what my best friend did for her wedding dress.

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Ah. that is one option no one mentioned before.

I have my own place anyhow.

View Quoted Comment Then I think you’ll be fine.

I put mine in a black trash bag and hung it in the very back of the closet. I didn’t have any issues.

I kept mine at my parents house until it was time to take it to the seamstress. All the alterations are now finished and the seamstress is keeping it until right before the wedding

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That again is great the seamstress will do that for you. I see your wedding is coming up soon. That's great. So that will work better than getting it back to your parents?

View Quoted Comment She said she is going to steam it right before I take it back so thats one less thing I have to worry about. I will pick up my dress the Tuesday before my wedding and drop it back off at my parents house until Saturday. My mom is the only family member who has seen my dress so far because I want to keep it a surprise.

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I think that surprise element is so great. Though, like Michelle mentioned, the dress on a hanger is nothing like when you are wearing it.