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How to inform friends and family they are not invited to your small destination wedding?

Julia, on July 7, 2015 at 2:06 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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We are getting married in 6 months outside of the country with only parents, siblings, and a couple of close friends. How do we let our extensive network of aunts, uncles, and friends know that we are getting married, but make it clear, without offending them, that it is a very small group? We do not wish to make anyone feel left out, but we cannot afford a big wedding, nor do we want one. Do we send individual emails to everyone? A group email? Your input is highly appreciated. Thanks.

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Latest activity by Julia, on July 7, 2015 at 3:54 PM

Master September 2016
Corinne_ · on July 7, 2015 at 2:07 PM
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I would send them a wedding announcement after you already got married.
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Master January 2015
Janeen · on July 7, 2015 at 2:07 PM
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I would wait for people to ask. I wouldn't make it a point to email a large group of people and tell them they're not invited to something. Most people are adult enough to know that if they're invited, they'll get an invitation, and if they're curious, they can always reach out and ask.
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Master April 2015
Lucy · on July 7, 2015 at 2:11 PM
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Don't say anything.
If they ask just tell them you are having a small and intimate wedding with close family only.
Send wedding announcements after you come back.
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Master October 2015
VWCat · on July 7, 2015 at 2:15 PM
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I agree with Janeen and Lucy.
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Master September 2015
Kelli · on July 7, 2015 at 2:18 PM
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Yep, it is traditional to send announcements after the wedding. Have them ready to go and mail on the wedding day.
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Master June 2015
Maltese · on July 7, 2015 at 2:21 PM
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"You're not invited"
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VIP June 2016
Nikki · on July 7, 2015 at 2:26 PM
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I would just not send invitations. If they ask you directly, you can answer them then. Send an announcement after the wedding
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VIP August 2015
Sassy Cincy Bride · on July 7, 2015 at 2:27 PM
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I agree with Corinne. You just send an announcement after its said and done.
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Master October 2014
StitchingBride · on July 7, 2015 at 3:28 PM
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Unless you are afraid they will show up without a invite (some people would) I don't see the need to say anything unless they ask. I'm with others, just send a nice announcement with pictures afterwards. personally, I love getting them!
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Just Said Yes March 2016
Julia · on July 7, 2015 at 3:54 PM
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Thanks everyone for your fast response. We have had a few relatives ask, but we can handle that one-by-one as you recommend. We'll send announcement cards afterwards. Cheers!
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