how to handle people teasing you on your wedding...?

I would just say "Wow, you haven't changed at all have you?"

And then walk away

It's really crappy that people who should be grown up, aren't..so, you can say what I suggested, or just ignore it all and know that you are way better than that and they are most likely jealous of what you have and that you are a wonderful lady!

I've already asked my family not to tease me on my special day and if they are going to do it I would rather it be at the rehearsal dinner and get it out of their system so they aren't doing it in front of my other family and friends.

A little good natured teasing is to be expected but at the same time I don't think it's too much to ask that your family let you have your one day of bliss! It is your wedding after all!

I was wondering Kristi, If you don't mind me asking, what do they say when they tease you?

Just about how I can be so quiet (yes I can be shy) or how I never smile...(lie i am always smiling) or how I always look misserable (another lie..i am a very happy person!) I am just worried that since I am going to be nervous enough already they are going to play on it...am I making sense?

Oh that's a terrible thing for you to have to worry about. Do they all tease eachother or do they just target you? If they're going to do it regardless of what you say, I would just laugh with them and try not to let it bother you. I can be pretty sensitive at times too, and I'm always trying to remind myself not to take things so seriously. And other people will just think you're a great sport and have a lot of confidence to not let it bother you!

Thats so lame! im sorry but teasing shouldnt be expected on your wedding day. the only trouble i had was from an annoying uncle that i didnt even want to invite. but so lame! im sorry you have to deal with this. just try to laugh it off? if they see you upset or annoyed by it they will probably just keep the teasing up right? im sorry.

My first suggestion is to have a set list of who will be able to give toasts at both the rehearsal dinner and wedding and don't open it up to anyone who wants to participate (at least that way, they will not be able to tease you over the loud speakers). Second, appoint a friend/close family member/bridesmaid to be the "bouncer" before the ceremony. If possible, try not to allow lots of guests into the dressing room. That can be both annoying and overwhelming, especially at a time that you are probably already overwhelmed. I don't think there is any way to prevent them from saying things when you do see them in person, but at least the above two suggestions will reduce the opportunities.

I would just say for your family members that haven't seen u in 10 years that tease you. "Wow, that still does it for you?" Then just walk away with your head held high and smile the whole time. Its your day, you shouldn't have to worry about things like that, I am so sorry hunny.

Ugh, that completely pisses me off because i know people that try to do that to me, and its really stupid, it pisses my FH off but not to me because i am better than that, ignore all of it and and be better than them, and do exactly what everyone else told you, walk away. Its sad because i honestly think people that do that are not happy for themselves that they have to try and make other people unhappy. So laugh it off, ignore and know that they are the ones that are actually being made fun of.

Thank you all so much for all the wonderfu; advice. I will try it and its funny b/c one of my bridesmaides said she would tell anyone off who tried to tease me on the day. haha. oh well. I will be better than that I just hold my head high and focis on my and my new husband. I know he will support me

OMG, I thought I was the only one with family like this! For some reason my family seems to think it's funny to tease me about being in control, and they are always telling me to not worry, calm down! Funny thing is, I have been so unusually calm about everything! I mention one thing and everyone is like "Don't get worked up, don't worry about it." So, apparently I can't say anything. They do like to give me crap and say "It's princess's day" "Anything for princess" And that's funny b/c when I moved here I was spoiled and didn't know anything! Lol. But now I am very strong and have proven myself and worked very hard, so it's still just a funny joke, and I just dish it back and tell them they have to do what I say, then we all laugh! But if anyone calls me any other names, even joking, I just say "Takes one to know one." I did tell one person (and it worked very well!), "You can give me crap any other day, just please not on my wedding day." That seems to get the point across.

OMG jessica I am so sorry. That sucks. I can't believe the line about the princess crap. Thats so mean. I would tell them the princess wants you to take my tiara and sit on it.... LOL! Then they will shut it! I can only imagine the looks on their faces!! HAHA

That is one awesome BM Kristi! My MOH is the same way, she'll step in no matter what and she won't care who she's going head to head with! I on the other hand, just nod and smile while there is a raging person inside!

My family can be like this sometimes. Especially my one aunt and stepmother, who just so happen to be sisters. (my father and his brother married sisters) But you gotta get sassy with them and stand up for yourself. Dont show emotion, and I know its hard. My aunt and stepmother would tease me a lot, but it was just their way of being incontrol. But once I went back at them and blew them off, it all stopped and of course they found another target. So your best bet is to just stay strong and get sassy! Once you stand up to a bully they back off.

First off...pathetic...if people have nothg better to do with their time than thats sad. the fact that they make fun of you shows to me that they 1)have nothing to do with their lives 2)need to make themsleves feel better and 3)havent accepted who you are after all these years...again, pathetic. if they make fun of you i would say well thanks for coming and walk awya. you shoudl not have to deal with that! this isthe most special day in your life amd people wh have nothign better to do with their time caus ethey obviously hate themselves shluldnt be abl to ruin it for you. just dont let them!

Lol...that's funny SCheecks! Luckily the two people that were mean about it backed off after I told them they could give me crap any other day, but not my wedding day (especially when one of them was intentionally doing it to rile me up). He even said he was doing it for that reason. But once my feelings got hurt he apologized and it hasn't happened since. So, Kristi, maybe even tell them, "you know what, it's my special day, and you are trying to hurt my feelings. What does that say about you?" And then just walk away. And ignore anything they have to say, don't get into an argument about it with them. Just walk away. It'd be great if you could it in front of a bunch of people too! Then everyone gets the point. Good luck! Be strong!

Tell them its your day and they can kiss your A**! If that doesn't shock them into shutting their traps nothing will. As if you don't have enough stress. Or....you could always grab the mic from the dj and embarass the hell out of each and every one of them.