So i have two problems.
My parents divorced when i was young and my mom remarried, and got divorced not too long ago (they were married for 9 years), but has a new bf who i cannot stand. I am still super close with my step family. but they don't like her anymore. is it rude of me to not invite my moms bf?
another issue, i don't talk to my brother and haven't in two years, but my parents expect me to invite him. but my FH and brother got in a fight (my brother was in the wrong and ended up hitting me first) so we haven't talked since. my mom and i have a rocky relationship because of it, but she still expects me to invite him.
i have thought about just getting eloped and not dealing with a wedding at all because of these two huge issues. But i have been dreaming of getting married and having a big wedding with all my family forever. But these issues are giving me such anxiety.