I understand the "rule" of inviting couples based on the "social unit" concept, however, I am torn and need advice on how to proceed in regard to my same-sex wedding.
I have been blessed to have an immediate family that loves and supports me, and honestly loves and supports my FH more (lol). However, I do have some more extended family (three aunts and a number of cousins) where it gets complicated. My aunts and cousins support me (or at least have given that impression) but the people they are married to do not. I come from a very close southern family that values our familial relationships and I couldn't imagine marrying my best friend without them there, but I also know that some of their spouses may either refuse to come, or if they did come, would be unpleasant, a huge waste in money, and honestly just ruin the experience.
Is it appropriate for me to only extend the invitation to those specific family members that accept us, and make it clear that their spouses are not welcome? Are there any other LGBTQ+ couples that have gone through this or are currently trying to figure this out that can share their thoughts?