How to handle +1 request for brand new boyfriend

I would tell your cousin that you're appreciative she wants to share in your special day, but the guest list has already been finalized.

Have your invitations went out? If they haven't, technically she should get to bring her date.

Have the invitations gone out? I would just say unfortunately we are not able to accommodate any additional guests. The guest list has been finalized for a while and invitations have already been sent out.

Just because other relationships didn't last long doesn't mean this one won't. Her relationships aren't for you to judge. You should allow her to bring the new guy, especially if invitations haven't gone out yet.

You say of course and give them a their date for your wedding. Stop the goddamn judgement about someone else's relationship. Just because they made it official now doesn't mean anything.

I agree with what everyone else said about the list already being finalized

I would explain that you've had to cut the guest list and exclude people you care about and you just don't have room, unfortunately.

How does one enter a relationship today?

You don't have to let the date come. Whether or not you have sent the invite. You shouldn't have to pay for her date and if you had to cut people you care about then the cousin should definitely not get a +1.

I agree with saying unable to accommodate additional guests.

I love the judgement that comes from brides. People love to act like because they got a ring it erases the fact that they could have started as a hookup, fling of the month, fling of the week etc. The whole point of dating is to play the field. Did you only date one person? If they are still together when invites go out invite the bf by name

You should include the new boyfriend especially if invitations have not yet been mailed. They are a social unit now and should both be invited by name.

If invitations have been mailed, you should try to include her new boyfriend. You will likely have declines that will open up a spot for him to take.

I'd just give it to her

Just let her bring the date. It's one person.

IF it's at all possible for you to accomodate her date, do it. If for some reason you can't possibly do it, tell her regretfully you cannot.

If she says she is in a relationship as of today, that probably means they have been seeing each other for a while and today discussed that they are committed and exclusive.

Unless the guest list has been finalized then I think you should let her have a plus one. By the time your wedding occurs they will have been together for nearly two months which isn't a long time, but it is enough time for them to become really fond of each other.

In perspective if you and your FH were together for 2 months with your FH and his family would not allow him a plus one then would you have been upset?

Again, I am not saying 2 months is a long time by any means, but at that time most couples are still in the honeymoon phase and are totally infatuated with each other. If you are not accepting of him now, then it could be awkward down the road if they do end up staying together and getting married.

BTW it also could be that she goes through relationships fast because she realizes that they are not the one for her and decides to not carry out the relationship longer than it needs too once she realizes that the person is not the one. Don't assume that she is not serious about her relationships.

If you have the room, invite him. Otherwise, as PP said, let her know that unfortunately the guest list has already been finalized.

I'd let her bring the date.

I literally had this same situation today!!!

I think that if you are asking, you don't have enough room on your guest list to include the plus one. This isn't a matter of etiquette, it's a matter of your wallet and how many people you and your FH can pay for. Every guest is not entitled to a plus one, I don't care how many etiquette blogs or how to be a polite bride articles you read. I feel like it's so ironic that a lot of brides are concerned about etiquette but can be very ruthless on these forums! (Sorry that was a tangent... anyway)

I told my cousin today that we have already reached our max on the guest list and unfortunately we cannot accommodate her bringing her new girlfriend. I offered to do a hangout after the wedding or the next day so we can meet her and hang out (I even opened it up for her to bringing her girlfriend to the wedding only).

If you can squeeze in a plus one and it doesn't take away from anyone else that you would want to be there, then do it. Otherwise don't knock off a friend who you would miss if they weren't there just for someone's new friend, especially if you don't know them. Weddings are not the place to meet new people, especially if it's your wedding!

@jameena you might think we are ruthless but I bet your cousin is saying a lot worse than we are. I gave all single guests on my list a plus one and when it comes time to send out invites if they are single then I will adjust it accordingly. It's call budgeting and planning. Nothing to do with etiquette. I just know how shitty it is to be at a wedding without my significant other because we didn't pass some stupid time test that the bride and groom made up. I also hate the whole but they will know people at the wedding. Ya cause I want to slow dance with uncle Joe.

My fiancé and I are doing guests for only married engaged or been together for a while .. if I have everyone a date I would have a 500 guest list lol . I would just say that the guest list is already finalized