How to "fire" a bridesmaid.

I definitely think you should include your FH on this, since it's his sister. If your MIL is prone to drama, you may want to have him talk to her about it first as well. You know his family better than any of us do, but I have heard of some SERIOUS drama where the bride didn't want to include the groom's siblings... depending on how his family is, it may or may not be worth it to kick her out... good luck!

Thanks ladies. You guys are awesome.

I was having the same problems with my FH's sister, i asked her to be a BM and she agreed. she never gave me opinions about anything and kept giving me excuse after excuse why she couldnt go get fitted for a dress that would take 5 minutes so i booted her ass. i say if youre nice enough to ask someone to be in your wedding and then they act like they want no part in it then they are ungrateful and regardless if she's going to be your new family or not its uncalled for and just plain rude. i would get rid of her before you get yourself stuck in a hole. she obviously doesnt care about you or your wedding and i wouldnt want people like that standing up there with me. but thats just my opinion.

The people you choose to stand with you on your wedding day is such an honored position, I would never ask someone to be one of my attendants just to even out numbers. I ESPECIALLY wouldn't ask someone who clearly doesn't like me and it sounds like it might be mutual. At this point I don't think there'd be any love lost b/c clearly you guys don't have any type of relationship. and if her own brother doesn't want her to be in it, I'd say that makes the decision all the more easier. i wouldn't even sugar coat it or wrap some fancy story around it about evening up the BP. She needs to get over herself. Her behavior is very juvenile. I think she could use a little dose of her own rude medicine. Dear FSIL, Your lack of participation and interest leads me to believe that you are not interested in being part of our wedding. Please consider yourself off the hook. I only asked you to even the numbers in the first I bet she'll respond to that. LOL!