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Savvy September 2010

How to deal with an uninvited plus one??

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Jessica, on July 16, 2010 at 10:48 AM

My fiance and I are currently collecting our RSVP cards to our wedding. We are paying for the wedding ourselves and to keep the costs low, we decided to only allow our guests a "plus one" if they are in a long term serious relationship. I received an RSVP from my cousin, who to my knowledge wasn't...

My fiance and I are currently collecting our RSVP cards to our wedding.

We are paying for the wedding ourselves and to keep the costs low, we decided to only allow our guests a "plus one" if they are in a long term serious relationship. I received an RSVP from my cousin, who to my knowledge wasn't dating anyone. We had invited her only, without a "plus guest." When we got her RSVP card, it said her name "and Dave." We have no idea who Dave is and really don't want him at our wedding. Nevermind the fact that she was not invited with a guest.

I am not sure how to address this? Do I let it go and see if we can make room for him? Or should I address it head on and tell her that we can't accomodate her "plus one" ?

I dont want to be a bridezilla about it, but I am pretty annoyed. She is in her mid-30s and should know better...right??

Help!

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Master June 2016
Sarah · on March 30, 2018 at 6:16 AM
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“Hi friend. Just got your RSVP for (boyfriend) and (child). The invite was meant for just you and boyfriend. We can not accommodate any of the children. If boyfriend is still able to make it with you or alone, let me know. If not, he’ll be missed.”
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Devoted August 2019
Leaves232 · on August 30, 2019 at 1:10 AM
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I had 1 friend RSVP for an un-invited guest that was her boyfriend of a few months that we didn't know about. My friend was taking a plane to get to our wedding so I thought it was fair for her to bring a guest if she wanted. Also, we ended up with more declines than expected so we had the extra space. However, I was a bit incredulous that my friend didn't just personally ask me if it was ok to bring him instead of just writing "2" on the RSVP without even his name (which I had to find out later).
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Super October 2021
Suzie · on September 1, 2019 at 8:38 PM
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You 100% need to address this, otherwise he will be at your wedding. As someone else said, just politely reach out and say you’re happy she can attend, but unfortunately your budget and count can’t accommodate him.
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