How to de-bridesmaid a friend?

Eating the sisters in laws food.. lmao.

@OG that was insane! Ligit took it off my sis in laws plate and then asked if she wanted it back!? Wtf

Again, I have done those in the moment, but was brushed aside. But like I said, I am gunna have another convo with her about it and make it clear, again. Again, thanks for all the help and suggestions, even the mean ones lol

I think it's mean to b called a bitch in the morning, don't you?

Close friends don't lose that status with one sidestep. Talk with her.

If you de-bridesmaid her (never heard it phrased that way), you will most likely lose this friendship. Is that worth it for what you have said she did? Is this the first time she's tried any of this stuff like holding your FH's hand?

People have different boundaries on food. We never took food off other plates or shared drinks in my family. Best friend's house was a free for all when their large family visited. People share forks sometimes. Forks! Maybe cut her a little slack and see how it plays out.

Wait so you are going to destroy your friendship over some misinterpreted food issue, a kids beds(?), and what you perceive to be flirting.

Cmon talk to her first. TBH a lot of people touch more or less based on cultural norms. It was a discussion post in the past about kissing people who aren't your FS. I kiss just about every one of friends which can be seen as "flirting" (a distant family member tried to call me out on my wedding day for it). Depending on the situation I've walked arm and arm with guy friends and am overall a very touchy person. It's never sexual or trying to steal someone's SO.

The food thing is just silly. Seriously just say "hey in our family we don't share food. Just a heads up my SIL was not okay with what happened on vacation"

These are not friendship ending actions IMO.

I'm still on the food thing.. lol. Like how does that happen. Either you're friends and you share, or you're not and the person gets stabbed in the hand with a fork.

That's going to be pretty bad, and it probably won't end well.

Granted you have over a year, and before you probably end the friendship over this, just cool down for a month or two. Try talking to her after the new year or revisit that thought then. Unless she said some awful things about you or your family just let her be and keep her as a bridesmaid. Posts like these make me super thankful I'm only having family members in my bridal party.

Again, I appreciate the comments and concerns. At this point imma be like Elsa and let it go. Thanks everyone

I can't believe how friendships have changed! I remember a time when I called my best friend because I was devastated that I shorted out my favorite "sexy time" toy. I couldn't fathom not being able to ask her "bitch why did you take SIL's hotdog? We can't be friends anymore."

All of those things were said, again ignored. Again, imma be like Elsa and let it go. Sorry if I came off catty or crazy. I appreciate you all helping me put things into perspective. Honestly, I do appreciate it. Fyi I never cause this kind of stir on the forum, like ever!

I would have exactly zero friends if stealing food was a friendship-ending move.