How To Choose My Maid of Honor

Pick the person you know will always be there to support your marriage. It's as simple as that!

I haven't read the comments yet but your post really makes me wonder how old you are.

I selected the person whom I'm close to the most, always makes me smile and has positive opinions, my 12 year old daughter...best decision I've made.

I would suggest you pic the person you consider to be your best friend. Someone who you can rely on to do all the MOH tasks and have a good attitude about it.

This is weird.

I don't think you really understand =/ moh is your closest person most trusted friend, sister, confidant, etc... it has nothing to do with proximity, availability to help, age, amount of kids.. .

This might be one of the weirdest posts I've seen here, and that's saying something.

How old are you, OP?

Your MOH should definitely not be someone you get along "fine" with.

Lol Im LOLing at your little BM bios with year dates and all. I see your wedding is still very far out so wait 6-7 months before the wedding to ask (December/January). Know that relationships may change a lot from now to then. But from your bios these are my thoughts:

Id pick Emma, not bc she is more available to "help" but bc she would probably be very into/excited about the wedding and that positivity will do you good. But I don't know any of these ppl personally so who knows. And yes, she is more likely to help you bc she has more time on her hands, high school is probably her only job. Note that bc she is underage she may not be able to partake in any drinking/clubbing bachelorette activities.

Hard pass on your sister. Your sister just seems like a lot of negativity and trust me when I tell you, you don't want that. I don't know why people think things will change for a wedding. No, people will be what they have show you to be. Not more not less.

Your other friend is 2nd runner up but bc she has a family and other responsibilities know that your wedding will not be #1 priority which is fine. If you know that she is a great option too. Also bc she is married she may be able to provide of insight from her own wedding planning.

If want someone available to assist you, make room in your budget for a wedding planner. MOH and bridesmaids are supposed to be people for which you have a close bond and have been supportive you. Honestly, if I were one of them and saw this post, it would hurt my feelings.

Your MOH, and any bridesmaids, should be picked based off who is closest to you not because of what they can do for you. If you're going to go that route you might as well place an ad on Craigslist and be done with it. And I seriously hope your FH is the one who will have the most time available to help you because the only person who should be helping you plan is him, and a wedding planner if you hire one.

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It's too soon to choose. Just pick who you are closest with. And if you really need a pro con list, maybe just don't have a MOH.

You don't have to have a MOH...

It's pretty much been said already, but MOH isn't a job. It's an honor, really. And I will tell you this right now-don't expect anything from them. All they are required to do is show up to the wedding in their dress. They aren't required to throw you a party, go to every dress fitting or be available by demand. They are not employees.

I would really be disgusted if a "friend" or "sister" of mine put my "resume" up to a group of strangers to decide who it should be. My sister and I aren't the closest but at the end of the day she's my sister, she's known me all her life and I can see her in my life in 10-20-30 years in the future.

ETA-don't pick yet. wait until 8-10 months before.

Sarah would be a matron of honor...if you get along with Emma best then use her. But you still have months to ask

You don't need a MOH. This whole thing reeks of obligation. Wouldn't it suck to find out you were chosen to be someone MOH because of some online votes?

Do not pick based on who has the most time to help you. Pick who you are closest to. There are no jobs that they have to do except wear a dress and show up. I decided to have my three best friends and my sister all as bridesmaids. I couldn't pick between them for MOH so I have them all as bridesmaids.

This is kinda weird. I think Emma's definitely out, Alex is runner up and Sarah is the winner. I feel like this is a sick game of fuck/marry/kill.

This is the strangest post I've ever seen on WW. Do you even know what a MOH is? Pick whoever you're closest with and want standing right beside you on your wedding day. There are no pros/cons of each person. And why would you think a bunch of random people on the internet could help you decide out of three people who is closest to you?

Just wait til about 8 mos out and revisit on who you are closest with. Avoid the sister if she is in a bad mood around you - you don't want that shit on your wedding day