How To Choose My Maid of Honor

You're not hiring an employee. Just pick someone. If you get along with Emma best then choose her.

Just pick someone. Whoever you get alone with best.

Don't pick your MOH based on who you think will help you the most. Who do you want standing next to you on your big day? Would you regret either one of them not being a MOH because they aren't standing up there with you? Distance has nothing to do with being a MOH, being married with kids has nothing to do with being a MOH. A MOH is someone who you love and cannot picture your day without. They don't have any job duties or any obligation to help you with anything. If they offer then that is a bonus.

Pick based on who you're close with. Your bridal party isn't required to do anything but show up relatively sober in the dress of your choosing. They shouldn't be helping.

Wait till November or December, and then decide who you're closest to, and ask that person.

I have a few suggestions. Firstly, please don't pick one girl over another just because they can "help you more"!! My maid and matron of honors live 3 and 9 hrs away respectively. Have I asked their advice on things? Yes. I ask my sister and best friend for advice on most things. But it's my wedding to plan, no one else's.

Secondly, someone with the wrong attitude can bring down your day. But, you might however be surprised how your sister is excited about this new stage in your life.

Third, you have looooots of time to think this over still. (I suspect much of the WW advice you get will mention this). But with that time you can see how your friendships change. You could also just make all three girls bridesmaids and call it a day.

Hope that's helpful!

ETA, clarity.

I would wait this out until around Christmas and decide then.

Your MOH should be whoever you are closest with/have the most valued relationship with. It has nothing to do with age, availability to help, or how long you've known them. Neither your MOH or your bridesmaids need to help you with diddley-squat. It's your wedding, you and your Future Spouse do the planning and DIY

I guess I don't understand how it's a choice if your sister is always in a bad mood around you and your friend and you get along "fine". I would go with Emma.

In all honesty...I would HIGHLY recommend you choose the one you know you are closer to and will be there for you no matter what. DO NOT select one based off of their availability because you'll just be so damn disappointed if/when that changes and they actually "dont have time" to make your appts or attend your shower/bach party etc. This happened with me and my BFF (of 25yrs). She has zero kids and unmarried, unlike my sister who is married with 2 small kids. Since I was torn between the two, I decided to have two MOHs..I really wanted my sister by my side but felt like she just wouldnt have the same free time like my BFF would (plus the bff is much younger and i thought would plan a better bach party!) In the end...huuuge mistake! Long story short, my bff let me down on numerous occassions and I honestly wanted to kick her out sooo bad!! As I look back, my sister should have been the only one with the MOH title. She actually ended up coming through 100x more than I expected and planned an amazing bach wknd for me (while the bff took zero part in planning nor attended). So moral of story..do not be selfish. It may come back and bite you in the end!! Go with your heart. My heart always said my sister.

We can't help you pick your MOH.

I can't believe that you made a pro/con list of your friends.

This isn't a job interview. You should be choosing the person you are closest with and the one you want by your side no matter what they can do for you. BM and MOH are not your employees and should not be treated as such. They are not obligated to help you with anything.

I chose the person who had been most supportive of FH and I, and the one who I knew would be genuinely happy for us. I knew when I walked up to the altar with my dad, it was who I wanted to see when I turned to hold my bouquet, the one who I felt would share my joy and excitement, and the one who would help me during my freak out while getting ready. That's who I chose.

Whoever makes you feel that way is who I think you should choose. Good luck!

I think you are going about this wrong, you are not hiring someone- My MOH is not on payroll working X number of hours per week with me. She lives hours away, we work opposite schedules, but I wouldn't have anyone else in that role because we love and support each other! You should wait until the decision is an easy one to make before you ask anyone. Also, my FSIL dropped out of our wedding after we thought we were all so close, so keep in mind that weddings do crazy things to people. Good luck!

Make your sister the maid of honor and your friend Sarah the matron of honor

I'm not having a MOH because my BM have and will continue to help me equally and they all have a special place in my heart. You don't NEED one but if you feel you must choose one, choose on who you feel is most important to you

Pick the person you are closest to.

Choose the person you are closest with. They don't need time and distance doesn't matter. My best friend lives 12 hours away from me and I know she'll still be an amazing MOH on my wedding day.

I would recommend waiting until you are about 6 months out to ask anyone to be in your bridal party. Things change and we read stories every week about bridal party regret.

This is a terrible list.

"She's my fiance's choice for the job." It's not a job. It is an honorary title indicating to the bearer that she is extremely special to you. It carries no responsibilities or duties whatsoever.

Just pick whoever you love the most and are closest to. That's all a MOH is.

We don't need your friends' resumes. This is not a "job". Good lord.