How to calm down the the Bride-to-be?

Show her some of the pictures of the weddings found on this site. Most of the brides are on smaller budgets, ranging from a couple thousand to ten thousand. Some can afford more, but most can't. And they have all had absolutely beautiful weddings. Money doesn't make the day.

Get some flowers or chocolate, whatever she likes. Remind her that it's really about the two of you starting your married life together. Your family and friends celebrating your love is what makes the day. Not the expensive dress or flowers.

I'm sure somebody can bring this up faster than me, but can anybody post the link to Claire's wedding? She had a fabulous wedding on a small budget.

I think you're very sweet. But I also think it's going to be difficult planning a wedding if she thinks the day is ruined just because somebody else had more money to throw into a wedding. Good luck and welcome to WW! Ask her to join - people her have all sorts of fantastic ideas about how to make a gorgeous wedding on a budget.

Tell her you love her, and want the day to reflect that love and hope she does too. That your wedding will be beautiful, because it will be yours. Nothing else will last from the wedding, but your love and your marriage so all the frills your coworker had will not be missed.

If that doesn't work. I can't help you, because that would mean she only cares about the shallow aspects of a wedding. Keep your guest list pretty darn small if she really wants things to just look expensive.

Hi Samuel

It seems every girl wants their day to be Amazing and be the talk of the town and is afraid that their day won't be "good enough." You just need to try to convince her that with a little creativity, the two of you can come up with something Amazing and Unforgettable. Here is Claire's pictures that Mrs. S was talking about. I'm pretty sure her budget was 2K or 3K....???

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/wedding-pro-pics-are-in-pic-heavy/892bff3834d0913c.html

Sometimes a girls just needs her man to listen and not try and fix things...

However, I must say that my favorite wedding I have been to was done on a budget and was small. It was so intimate and reflected the couple so well that everyone had a blast. My least favorite wedding was the one where they spent the most money... it was a little too nice (read stuffy and a little boring). Let her know that a wedding is about sharing your love with your loved ones and having with it... weddings are not about impressing others

You can do amazing things with a tight budget if you find the right resources. I planned my wedding for just over 5k and i think its going to be a beautiful day! It may not be everyones fairytale wedding but it is perfect for FH and I , and at the end of the day we will be married and that is what is most important! I would apologize for being a bit insensitive, and tell her that your wedding is going to be special no matter what.

Show her the picture attached- it is what gets me through when I'm feeling like that! OR maybe show her that you posted on here and cared so much about making her happy that you wrote to a bunch of silly, crazy brides for advice- that will melt her heart more than anything, I bet!

Maggie B said it perfectly! =)

Wow.. it's nice of you to be Mr. Fix-it

I would suggest:

- giving her a massage

- hire a day-of coordinator (DOC)

More than likely, I would imagine she's more worried about the execution of the wedding, rather than luxury and extravagance.

It's not so much about how much money you put into the wedding (although it helps).. its more about the memories, warmth and celebration of your love... and you can't put a price on that.

Hiring a DOC would definitely help lower the stress levels and this very important person will help make your wedding seamless!