How to ask what each bridal party’s budget is for bachelorette

Just as a heads up, destination bachelorettes can tend to be problematic, just have a search here for some examples. I'd first gauge everyone's response to the destination idea, and if it's positive, then approach each one alone and ask about budget. Often people are all gung-ho at the beginning but begin to drop out as it comes up to time to pay. I wouldn't book anything or take on the expense without having the money in hand or at least a firm commitment. It's good to remember that it's not mandatory to attend this type of bachelorette, and it may be out of reach for some of the crowd. Having said all of that, I do hope it works out and that you have an amazing time in Vegas!

Thank you so much for your response!
Everyone has already bought their ticket to Vegas and is ready to party! We have big expenses covered such as hotel and couple of events . We would like to add more festivities but around everyone’s budget and we’d cover the difference. I just don’t know how to word it.

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Oh I see! I'd just see where everyone is after the major expenses, like saying something like...'we have a few more festivities (and explain) in mind, but we're aware of everyone's budgets. How much do you think would be appropriate? Would you be able to do $100? If not no pressure!"

Something like that.

Many properties have a bachelorette/ bachelor party concierge. You can contact them and get the rates and options and present these ideas to the group. The other travelers may have a financial/social preference for say, standard club entry vs. table service pricing, or pool daybeds costs vs. free chairs, Uber or taxis vs. hired party bus. There are many options to Vegas, but keep in mind nothing is dirt cheap including food and beverages. Good luck to you.

I would have had the total budget discussion well before deciding on a venue. And before that asked, not assumed, if people are interested in participating, because these things are both optional and voluntary.


In the bride’s place I would want to rule out anything that puts a burden or imposes on even one person. At this point, yes, you would speak to each person privately, ask what their budget is for activities, then plan according to that.