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How to ask someone to play at our wedding?

Beth, on September 23, 2014 at 4:36 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 2

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The mom of one of my two maids of honor (I have two best friends, couldn't choose one) is a fantastic piano player. My fiance and I are both very close to her. That being said, we want her to be the pianist for our wedding. I'd like it to just be as a wedding gift...but I'm not sure how to say that/how to ask her. Do I even mention that it would be in place of their gift (I feel like that sounds tacky...is it?) or do I just ask her to play or what? I'm not sure how to go about this. Any advice would be appreciated

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Latest activity by A&G, on September 23, 2014 at 4:52 PM

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AndixLyn · on September 23, 2014 at 4:47 PM
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You can't really. you can ask her what her rates would be to possibly play a bit, explain how long & style of music, and then go from there. just as hiring anyone. she may offer it for free, but be clear with her how long she has to play and what music she needs to provide etc.
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A&G · on September 23, 2014 at 4:52 PM
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Ask her if she would be willing to be the ceremony musican at your wedding.
But DON'T expect her to do it for free. That's rude and there is no way to ask her this. If you want her to play be prepared to pay her.
As with me, I asked a friend to be our ceremony musician. I was ready to pay him, but he offered to do it for free, which was nice. We still paid him, but not as much as it would have been to hire a ceremony musician so we saved money.
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