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How to ask people not to post pics of our wedding on social media the day of

MrsE2020, on August 30, 2019 at 8:38 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12

Would love some opinions on this. We're having a small wedding and unfortunately not able to invite everyone we are friends with. The wedding size is what we have decided we wanted so we aren't sorry about the size nor how we had to determine who made the list. There are a couple of his friends that he's distanced himself from over the past few years that won't be invited and may be hurt (and one of them is a passive aggressive jerk that will cause drama and grief to FH). Is it feasible to ask people to refrain from posting pics on social media? FH is adamant about this but I don't anticipate having my phone on me and there's really no way to police it. I'm also not one who would post a ton of pics after the fact either. We are sharing the day with everyone we want to.

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Latest activity by MrsE2020, on September 2, 2019 at 8:46 PM
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    Devoted October 2019
    Summer ·
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    I would have the person who is marrying you to tell everyone to shut there phones off, or if you are ok with them taking pictures have them say that 'pictures are ok but the bride and groom doesn't want ANYTHING posted, but guests are allowed to share what is posted by the bride and groom after the wedding' or something along those lines maybe
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I don’t think there’s any way to prevent people from posting photos, but you can change your settings to where tagged photos don’t appear on your page without approval.
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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    This is why I am choosing to have an unplugged ceremony.
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  • Karla
    Dedicated July 2021
    Karla ·
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    My friend tried to do this for her gender reveal and it didn’t work...people will post without even thinking about you because they’re having fun and/or excited. Especially if there’s alcohol involved it’s going to be really hard to control people lol
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  • L
    February 2020
    Lisa Johnson ·
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    I think you can ask with a verbal
    announcement, and you can put it in writing in the program, but you can’t totally guarantee no one will post, mostly because people get excited and forget the request. Can you keep FH away from his phone to avoid any drama?
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  • D
    Super July 2020
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    Has your FH blocked him on social media? You can ask your guests to refrain from posting pictures I guess but eventually this guy will likely find out one way or another you two got married.
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  • Megan
    Expert October 2019
    Megan ·
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    I created an FB page for wedding announcements/questions (that way I wasnt answering the same thing 50 times). Only confirmed guests are on the page and that's my first announcement. Unplugged ceremony. While their phones/cameras are not welcome at the ceremony, I cant wait to see candids of the reception. My brother (best man) is also announcing it before the wedding starts, because he has a big booming voice (I love our officiant but hes very mild mannered and quiet, not many people heard him at the 2 other weddings I've been to).

    Unfortunately, it may just happen and you should be prepared for the backlash if it does. We have that issue too but... weddings are too expensive to invite people that you dont care if they're there or not. Good luck.
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  • Courtney
    Super September 2019
    Courtney ·
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    I’ve been to weddings where the officiant has asked all guests to please refrain from sharing on social media (until the next day in their case). Or refrain from taking pictures during the ceremony at all. You could also make sure you have to approve tagging on you profile etc. If the wedding is really small I would also just talk to the people that post everything on social media and say we really don’t want this day shared online could you not post any of the photos you take.
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    Super December 2021
    Casey ·
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    This won't stop people from haggling pictures at the reception and posting them, though. I think OP is trying to prevent ANY pictures from being posted on social media.
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    Super December 2021
    Casey ·
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    Taking* not haggling lol.
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    Super December 2021
    Casey ·
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    This is probably your best bet. I also like the idea of making a request before the ceremony but it still doesn't guarentee anything and probably won't stop people.
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  • M
    Dedicated February 2020
    MrsE2020 ·
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    Thanks for the responses! Yeah, I think what I will do is have the officiant say something and we will tell the bridal party. I actually don't think it's a big deal if it happens after the fact.

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