How to ask for money nicely!!

I registered with 2 stores for the things we really need. Once i have my shower i will take the registry down. hopefully my guests will get the hint and give what they can. we know we cannot expect anything from anyone. i just hope everyone comes and have a good time without the pressure of giving something. i will use the advice that some you gave and let my bridal party and family spread the word that we would like monetary gifts if possible.

I am planning a bridal shower for my friend she is having a destination wedding.. My friend decided to move to Mexico with her husband.. can someone give me an idea to ask for gift cards/ money for her bridal shower I think money and gift cards would be more helpful for them..

You know what's actually disgusting? No, it's not asking for money in lieu of gifts. It's this whole wedding culture that demands you spend tens of (and upwards) thousands of dollars to say that you love someone and want to spend your life with them. It's that your wedding party will be *expected* to shell out THOUSANDS in order to participate in ONE DAY. Seriously, why is it wrong to get something ACTUALLY USEFUL that you could put toward a down payment or a nice honeymoon together, and instead end up with a fondue pot that you will use once and forget about it?! If money is what you need, ask for it. No matter what you do, people will be offended. I'm sure I just offended plenty of people. #sorrynotsorry

Don't register! My FH and I have almost everything we need, so we limited our registry to "Must-have" Items (Luggage, Fine China, Flatware., etc) . Our guest list is at 135 right now, and I honestly think we only registered for 15 items. They also have honeymoon registries if you wanted to add that

There are a few ways to politely indicate that you would prefer monetary gifts!

- You can simply not set up a registry, your guests will get the hint

- Or set up a very small registry with a few items

- Or use an cash registry website like Newlywish

Your best bet is to set up a cash registry on a site like Newlywish, which allows guests to contribute to a particular large purchase, like a down payment on a new house, or a car. Know that some guests will want to buy you gifts instead of cash, so you should probably set up a traditional registry in addition to your cash registry.

You can also check out our Registry Guide for tons of tips and ideas!

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View Quoted Comment This post is from eight years ago....likely this bride is long gone.
Please don't encourage the next generation of brides to panhandle at their own weddings.
Set an example.

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Yep!!! more than that... I am in the wedding this fall and on top of bachelorette, shower celebration decor, games and gifts for guests, a shower gift - there will be a cash gift for the bride and groom at wedding (my entire family is in the bridal party but my husband and i will "have" to cover our plates)... I honestly think it is outrageous... beyond crazy... BUT it's customary. this is just what people here do. And depending on whose wedding it is... this is very close family so we are happy to. but still wish it wasnt this much of a financial burden LOL

I see this thread is ancient but I'm just throwing it out there: for the love of Zeus, please don't use a money poem. I actually have a Pinterest board of the worst offenders: https://bit.ly/2i16cI9

I wasn't initially going to do a registry but then some of my family and friends insisted on throwing a shower - so I had to make one anyway. I did an Amazon registry and put a bunch of different gift cards on there! Like Lowe's, Spa Finder, even a straight Visa gift card. It sends the message without being overt about it. It was the best decision because we've been getting LOTS of gift cards! It's fantastic!

**ETA: I did NOT notice how old this thread was! LOL! Stupid WW, organizing posts in such a weird way...

There's no polite way to ask for cash other than maybe just not registering but that can be dangerous because then some people might just buy you any old crap.

But since you're getting married away from home you're totally safe - guests aren't going to pack an entire present for you they will just bring checks.

Besides, gifts are usually for the bridal shower and money is given for the wedding.

On all accounts you should be getting money

So the guests I'm dealing with are... not classy. I know everyone will say that's so rude etc but y'all don't know my guests. My guests will be rude. As in, they will make eye contact with my photographer as they totally block his shot and will stay there blocking the shot. They will call a week before and tell me so-and-so's family is visiting from overseas, can all 6 of them come to the wedding too? And when I say no they will bring all those guests anyway, and then they will let their children run wild all over. My saving grace is that my venue has no problem being strict and escorting uninvited guests out. I know they will have to.

So I had no problem writing "no boxed gifts please" on my invites. In my mind I'm proactively avoiding more bull. And I know some people are going to bring some gigantic old box of dishes they found in their basement anyway, but at least this will help curb the majority of it. Maybe it will rub some of my guests the wrong way (my friends and work friends who are not experienced with the rest of my guests) but I am planning to loosen any tension with them.

Gifts are certainly never mandatory, but I'd much rather you give us a prayer instead of giving us something no one will use.

We just did a small registry for those people that "must" buy gifts and the rest will get the hint I'm sure!

I know everyone on here hates it, but in addition to a traditional registry we have a newlywed fund. I don't feel bad about it, I don't feel it's any tackier than a regular registry, and I don't care what people say It is an option for your situation!

You can use Honeyfund, Traveler's Joy, or TheKnot registries

Just don't register at all, and people will get that you want cash instead of gifts! Asking for money pretty much always sounds rude, and people will get the hint when they see no registry.

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Love this!

Put a link to Tendr - it's a cash wedding registry: https://tendr.com/

I wish people would realize that people don't need physical gifts after planning a wedding. They need $$ to help subsidize the wedding costs & be debt-free!

I would assume the expenses for them to come to Hawaii were enough. I wouldn't expect or ask for a gift of any kind. They may still choose to give you a gift or cash at the wedding, but let it be their choice to give you something without being told to.

I know a few people that mention they're having "gift card showers" and list places they want cards for.