Nely
Beginner July 2019

How to ask for cash on the invitations politely?

Nely, on March 14, 2019 at 12:48 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 41
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Hello everyone!

we are having a difficult time coming up with a phrase or paragraph which tells our guests that as hifts we prefer cash as we are already living together and do not need anything other than cash. Please advise on some suggestions. We greatly appreciate it.

#FutureMrsPerez

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  • Alexandra
    VIP June 2019
    Alexandra ·
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    You’re having difficulty because it really isn’t polite to ask for cash! Either do not register or have a very small registry, and your guests will get the hint.
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  • Summerbride77
    VIP July 2019
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    This. If you don't have a registry people will give you cash Smiley smile there’s no reason to expressly ask.
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  • Megan
    Super May 2019
    Megan ·
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    You're not supposed to include any registry information or gift/cash requests on the invitation. Did you create a wedding website? If so you can have a registry info page there and you can include the website on your response card. If you don't register anywhere, people will give you cash/check.

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  • Kat
    Expert May 2019
    Kat ·
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    There is no way to say that politely. I think you’re better off just not saying anything. A lot of people will say just not to register, and that guests will get the hint - although I think not having a registry runs the risk of some people choosing random gifts for you. I would suggest setting up a small registry and expect to get a mix of gifts and cash.
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  • M
    Beginner July 2019
    Michelle ·
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    I agree with the previous post about small registry. I went to a wedding last summer and there was probably under 20 items on their wedding registry (which was all purchased by the time I looked at the registry), so we ended up giving cash.

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  • Nely
    Beginner July 2019
    Nely ·
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    Thank you ladies. I know it’s rude to ask for cash, but my fiancé’s family has a tendency to ask give physical gifts although they see there is no registry.
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  • Kiki
    Super May 2019
    Kiki ·
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    I went to 5 weddings last year none of them had registries every single person brought cash or cheques no one brings a random gift to a wedding anymore.

    I would just not register no one is going to bring you a gift just cash.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    There’s no polite way to ask for any gift on your wedding invitation, let alone cash.
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  • Sophie
    Super December 2020
    Sophie ·
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    Lack of registry is the best way to do it. You shouldn’t be using your wedding as a way to assist your financial situation though.
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  • Rachel
    Super May 2019
    Rachel ·
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    If you don't have a registry, most people will get the hint and just bring cash. But it's actually considered rude to specifically ask for cash. A registry is more of an suggestion of gift options for people should they wish to get you a gift. But asking for cash kind of comes across as the couple saying "you have to get me a gift and it should be this".

    So just don't have a registry and don't say anything. That's what we're doing. But we're not expecting gifts or money either. If we get anything, awesome. But mostly we just want our friends to come and celebrate with us.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    I think people like this are always gonna bring a random gift no matter what you do (including a “no gifts please!” Or a cutesy poem saying you don’t need home goods but trip money would be nice): these are just the people that don’t give money and always give gifts , there are always a few , and they’re never gonna cave and NOT give money. You jut kinda have to hope they include gift receipts 🤣🤣
    (we HAD a [small] registry, but my grandmother was dissatisfied with it and our choices and INSISTED we needed fancy cloth napkins !! ....there’s always gonna be *someone*)
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  • Quinta Nikkole
    Dedicated May 2019
    Quinta Nikkole ·
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    I sent this with my invatations
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  • Kat
    Expert May 2019
    Kat ·
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    This is a regional/cultural thing. My family only gives checks at weddings, but my FH’s family considers it rude/odd to give money at a wedding. They WILL bring a gift - off the registry if there is one, their choice if there’s not. We set up a small registry for this reason.

    I think you just have to think about who your guests are and what they’re used to.
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  • Quinta Nikkole
    Dedicated May 2019
    Quinta Nikkole ·
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    It didn't show up on my last comment

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  • Kiki
    Super May 2019
    Kiki ·
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    Guess that's what returns are for.

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  • Nely
    Beginner July 2019
    Nely ·
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    LOL this is assuming higy receipts are provided
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  • Haaley
    Expert December 2019
    Haaley ·
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    I feel like a lot of people prefer to give the couple cash anyways and will forgo the registry to gift it in the card box.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    If you don't register & don't mention it at all, people will politely get the hint without you asking for money on your invitations.

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  • Haaley
    Expert December 2019
    Haaley ·
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    This is really cute. I feel like if you really know you're guests, then it wouldn't be a problem.
    I have had multiple people ask if I'm registered though, so we made a registry as well.
    And since our guests know us, we added some fun things- like a cookie jar in the shape of an alien from the movie Alien.
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  • Lillian
    Savvy September 2019
    Lillian ·
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    My fiance and I have lived together for over 5 years. So instead of a typical registry we have a honeymoon registry, it tells people what the money would be spent on during our honeymoon. For example we are going to Ireland so we have registered for money for tickets to the Guiness Storehouse and dinner for twos at the local pubs we will go to. On our website we put this poem I found on pinterest:

    If you are thinking of giving a gift, to help us on our way,

    a gift of cash towards our honeymoon would really make our day.

    However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way.

    The best gift of all is seeing you there on our special day.

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