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Beginner April 2024

How to ask another friend to be a Bridesmaid after my original Bridesmaid said no.

Nikki, on July 15, 2023 at 12:18 AM

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Long story short, after sending my bridesmaids letters asking them to be BMs and notifying them on details of the wedding (along with who else would be in the wedding party). One of my girlfriends came back with a no due to money being tight. Legit I Totally Understand! I already had a friend I...
Long story short, after sending my bridesmaids letters asking them to be BMs and notifying them on details of the wedding (along with who else would be in the wedding party). One of my girlfriends came back with a no due to money being tight. Legit I Totally Understand! I already had a friend I wanted to ask in case anyone declined, but now idk how to ask her. She’ll know she wasn’t an original ask if anyone chooses to share their letter with her :-/ hindsight smh But would it matter?! Is it ok if she’s knows?! Is it rude to let her know?! How should I ask her?! Any help is greatly appreciated!
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    Contrary to what you may believe, complete honesty isn't always the best policy when it is likely to hurt feelings. If you explain your reasoning, ie that she used to be flaky and unreliable and you were afraid the same thing would happen again as you did here there is a good chance that's what will happen.

    Moving around the same time is a transparent excuse in this context. People move and attend weddings all the time and participating in pre-wedding events is optional. If this was the real reason, you would have left the decision up to her. At least I hope you would have. IMO your FI is being unreasonable with the even sides nonsense.

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    Beginner April 2024
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    Thank you so much for sharing! Its good to know it all worked out and I'm glad to hear it 😊
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    Beginner April 2024
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    Thank you so much for the help! Appreciate the advice

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