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Just Said Yes October 2019

How to answer a canceled guest?

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Sarah, on October 8, 2019 at 9:04 AM

I just received a text from a friend that her and her boyfriend can no longer make it to our wedding because she forgot her daughter has a school dance she is chaperoning. We are 10 days out and just made our final payment this past Saturday. Obviously I know things happen but I feel this excuse is ridiculous considering they have had the Save the date for 8 months and RSVPd.... I am super angry and am not sure how or if I should answer her text. Do I just say "that is unfortunate" and leave it at that?

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Melissa · on October 8, 2019 at 3:12 PM
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Tell them you wish good things for thier little girl's dance recital, and you're sorry they can't make it. Weddings are a money pit I've discovered, soo enjoy who's going to be with you on the day
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Sarah · on October 8, 2019 at 3:28 PM
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Thanks everyone! I replied kindly saying she would be missed and thanks for letting me know.
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Nina · on October 8, 2019 at 3:30 PM
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Silence speaks volumns. This is a really dumb excuse. Did you see the newsletter today? It says how not to annoy guest who don't RSVP. Isn't it the other way? It is so rude to not RSVP. I like how the article also says you can be "zen" about it and just plan on their coming! I'm spending that kind of money and setting up fun dinner tables only to have a no show?!
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Tina · on October 8, 2019 at 3:33 PM
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I say msg her back ok hope her daughter enjoys herself and thanks a million. Sometimes u just have to be the bigger person besides its ur day anyway. One of the groomsmen will be lucky wit 2 LADIES ON HIS ARMS😊😊😊
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Ivy ORP · on October 8, 2019 at 3:51 PM
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That's exactly what you say. Things do happen, and when it comes to your children's events it is always difficult finding the balance. I'm sure they feel bad and let you know when they could. It certainly is frustrating for those of us planning our weddings but we can only control ourselves.
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Brenda · on October 8, 2019 at 3:52 PM
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I would just say ok and let it go! As long as she is not a bridesmaid or anything oh well
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Sexypoodle · on October 8, 2019 at 3:59 PM
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I guess she didn’t have to give you a reason at all..... and some people simply don’t show up without saying anything. So the only thing you should really do is say “thank you for your response” and move on.
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Gen · on October 8, 2019 at 4:04 PM
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Honestly I wouldn’t respond. I was taught that if I didn’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything... and I really don’t think I could come up with something “nice” to say back to that :p
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Allison · on October 8, 2019 at 4:14 PM
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Say you're sorry they can't make it and move on. Maybe she will send a gift or a check. Or maybe she wont.
A lot of times you will have people who don't have the decency to tell you at all. You will find out later when they don't show to the wedding and never say anything about it.
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