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Michelle
Rockstar October 2020

How to address invitation of divorced parents?

Michelle, on July 9, 2020 at 12:39 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14
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My parents are together but fiancé’s parents are divorced and remarried. I really like the formal wording of
“Mr. and Mrs. xxxx requests the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Michelle xxxx and Grom Xxx son of ...”
Do I put stepson if I include stepparents? What if his dad isn’t contributing at all? They haven’t really been involved, I’m not speaking just financially.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2020
    Michelle ·
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    How to address invitation of divorced parents? 1
    Sample invite
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn Online ·
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    I've never seen step parents included, but if they've been around for a long time and helped raise him, I guess it would make sense to refer to them. I would still just put son though.

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  • Margaret
    VIP October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    https://www.bettylupaperie.com/blog/2019/3/11/wedding-invitation-wording-examples-for-no-children-divorced-parents-and-other-tricky-scenarios

    Divorced parents, both parents remarried:
    Since both parents are remarried, it is appropriate to include the bride’s last name to prevent confusion.

    Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Jones
    Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

    request the pleasure of your company
    at the wedding of their daughter

    Avery June Smith

    to

    Michael Alan Timmons

    No matter the scenario, just remember there is no “and” between the names. The “and” is super important to omit, y’all! “And” signifies marriage and is only used to unite married couples. For example, “and” is used between a husband and wife’s name if they have different last name, like when a married woman chooses to keep her maiden name.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2020
    Michelle ·
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    No, the step parents haven’t raised him. The stepdad has been around for like 8 years and they have a good relationship.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2020
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    I’m the daughter of parents still married to eachother so it’s just their name before mine. So I don’t really need to include his parents and step parents’ name??
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2020
    Michelle ·
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    Good point on the “to”!
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  • Hannah
    Rockstar July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Another good option that I like is "Together with their families." Takes up less space on the invite too.
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  • Margaret
    VIP October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    You can include them or not. You can also say something like Together with their families or Together with their parents xxx & xxx request your presence.

    I googled that information and we didn't include our parents on our invitation, we included my FH's son's name instead.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2020
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    I might just go that route instead. Sounds much easier!
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2020
    Michelle ·
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    I will do this instead!!!
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  • C
    VIP January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    If you did want to like FHs parents names I would just put his mom and dad.
    Future husband
    Son of Jane Do and John Smith
    I think this would be fine because technically these are his parents just aren’t married.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2020
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    I’m afraid of his stepdad feeling out since I nena his mom is married. He doesn’t have kids of his own and I don’t want to hurt feelings lol
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  • Brittany
    Savvy March 2021
    Brittany ·
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    My FH’s parents are divorced and his father is deceased, we wanted this kind, but we opted not to just put his mother on because it seemed insulting. I know this is a different situation, but we continued our search and decided that (especially since we’re doing the heavy lifting financially) we like the idea of it just being us asking for the honor of people’s attendance.


    Just another way to look at it.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2020
    Michelle ·
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    Thank you for input. I’ve just decided on “Together with their families”.
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