So my bridesmaid has dyed bright red hair, like maybe a little less brighter than fire engine red. She's had it since around the end of last year. She's been dyeing her hair natural and unnatural colors for a few years now, and has changes colors pretty frequently.
The dresses I've picked out for the bridesmaids are a pale pink and her hair clashes badly with the dress. When she first tried her dress on with me, it was her that brought it up first. I didn't realize it would clash like that, but it does, and I'd rather not have such as clash on the day or in the photos. I love the color and picked out the color of the dress before Covid made me postpone the wedding. Also my other 4 bridesmaids are all various shades of blonde (my family are literally all blonde and the other non-family bridesmaid dyes her hair blonde), so she's going to stick out further.
Would it be reasonable of me to request that she dyes her hair any natural color, and how should I go about doing that without offending her? Am I a bridezilla if I were to even bring this up? I'm happy with paying for it. If she were to say no, I'd leave it that. She's one of my closest friends and I still want her to be my bridesmaid regardless of her hair, and I'm certainly not kicking her out. But I'd rather there be no clash like that at my wedding. Help please.