How stressful is the last 2-3 months?

I am 25 days out. It is Tuesday. I don't drink on Tuesdays .... Usually.

It was definitely more stressful than other times of planning but I think it's doable if you are organized. And if you have some help.

FH (tries to) help! I have FIL's out here as well but all of my family and girlfriends are about 4 hours away. I definitely budgeted for a DOC Karen! FH thinks it is a waste of money but nope. I am organized with school and everything and wedding planning so far... (too much info maybe but when i have lots of stress I get rashes... do not want that on honeymoon)!

Taco, that glass is perfect. I just saw it on Mary's thread too hahah.

If you actually make decisions early on, it shouldn't be too bad. I waited until 2 months out to decide on most of the decor, groomsmen attire, cake design, etc. Waited until 2 weeks out to decide on music, vows, etc. I kept saying "we have 6 months, weeks, etc" to decide". Make decisions early and work on decor earlier than you think.

It's my favorite. When I have a shitty day I break it out... Then I share it everywhere :-)

Thanks KDS! I am trying to start early while I am on vacation now. FH thinks it is too early to book and I think he will be like that most of the way, but that is the procrastinator in him. I think I can make it work too.

I second what TacoCat said. 40 days and I've got a big glass of wine today.

It depends on how organized you are; I have a LOT of things scheduled for the last ~2 months, but it's not insanely stressful because I already had things lined up (hair color appointment, makeup trail, final alterations appointment, mani/pedi) and then I have to do a lot of random items like printing place cards, forcing FH to finally get his pants, putting together the welcome bags, making sure I have things packed for the honeymoon, putting together timelines and lists, meeting with the caterer for a final confirmation, meeting with the venue to do a final walkthrough, doing a rehearsal with my parents when they're in town, drawing up decor schematics (no DOC for me), printing our vows and putting them in the vow books, making sure I've connected with our officiant on final details, meeting with our photographer to go over "must have" shots and timelines...have I forgotten anything?

I need more wine.

I was definitely more stressed earlier on in planning. I got a lot done early and I have a month of coordinator. I'm getting married in a month and don't have much left to do except the seating chart, which people say is a nightmare so ask later

It is stressful. Only because a lot of vendor don't like to finalize everything until a month or two out. Hair/ makeup trial, multiple dress fittings, meeting photographer, final tasting, seating charts, meeting with minister and last but not least the dreaded RSVP...I think I am forgetting a few things.

Get help. Get DOC. Good luck.

ETA: yep, I forgot the DJ and florist

My goal is to drink straight for the next 30 days.

And for what it's worth- I've had the absolute single worst emotional break down since the time I tried to comitt suicide in college.

I cried for 2.5 straight hours till FH got home- and I met him in the drive way at midnight balling and sobbing.

And then 2 weeks ago I yelled at my mother- not like- WHY ARE YOU SO DIFFICULT... kind of yelling.

LIke- think more like a man

"I"M FUCKING SICK OF YOUR FUCKING SHIT AND DAD"S FUCKING SHIT AND EVERYONE ACTING LIKE FUCKING CHILDREN.

I"M OVER IT- AND YOU ALL HAVE CAUSED ME NOTHING BUT FUCKING STRESS THIS WHOLE TIME"!

'can you please stop swearing at me"

NO GOD FUCKING DAMNIT.

40 minutes.

40 full minutes of that- outside of my gym- so loud they closed the gym doors- and I go to a gym that's almost a black iron gym. not like- planet fitness- or la fitness. or curves. like. heavy ass weights- weird bearded men and loud ragey music.

2 worst episodes I've had in years.

All in the last month- I'm 1 month out and I've never regret agreeing to this wedding more. Seriously.

I regret not doing what I wanted to do a year ago (Pop Wed in DC) so a really extreme level.

But Fucking eh- I'm committed to the mistake- so if you're going in- might as well go balls deep and fucking hold on to the pony tail for a ride.

Shit's not getting better till it's over.

JoRocka, if it were up to me we would elope somewhere beautiful and go on a honeymoon. Wedding is important to FH (boo). Thank you for being honest with me. It helps with making these decisions

Also because I'm hella classy, I drink my wine from a coffee mug. The stress is real.

Big hug Jo

I actually am way less stressed now than I was the last few months, but we just hit the 3-month mark. I highly recommend getting major tasks out of the way sooner so that you're not stressing as much so close to the wedding!

We planned our butts off this summer and have everything set but alcohol amounts, so it's all fine tuning and small details from here on out!

I am trying to keep myself together but it's hard.. I am getting excited and then I go back to sad my father recently passed and it is a hard time for me... 24 days to go Jesus take the wheel

And Honestly I'm a pretty fucking chill person. Okay- not true- I'm very Type A- and I get annoyed wtih stupidity easily- but I have been as chill as possible- like whaever- no bridal party- no dresses- no whatever- "just good enough" lets move it on.

I've left all my choices to my vendors- and I have been as low key about this is pausable- I want to get married. That's it. And- really- my wedding is SMALL AS FUCK- 35 guest (that is DOUBLE my original guest list by the way) and double my budget. Seriously. It's absurd.

I'm sure it'll be fine and wonderful- but weddings bring out the absolute worst in people and families. Assumptions about what is okay and isn't okay- and money. Those two things will get you in a ball of hurt you never thought you'd be in.

So yes- things are going well- and honestly very little wedding planning needs to be done- but my family and his family as "chill" as they are- even in their chill way- managed to send me.right.the.fuck.over.the.edge.

Granted- I'm also running the ragged edge of exhausted 24/7- so 6 months of managing well with the stress- somethign had to snap. Apparently- now was it. LOL.

So if you don't handle stress- start doing yoga- and work on your alcohol tolerance now!!!

Hi Melissa,

I never post on here but this topic is one I can absolutely relate to. I had my Naplex scheduled for 2 weeks before my wedding in June and I had so many wedding things going on I pushed the exam to August. There was no way I would have been able to stress about the wedding and the exam, but I tend to panic, so it might not be the same for you!

I am on the same page with budget. We (I) put it all out on a spreadsheet and were shocked about how much we actually needed even after decreasing our guest list. and I am sure we are missing lots of little details still. I am deep into the yoga, definitely will need more wine in my life though.

Thanks for commenting Michelle! I can't really push my exam back, just the wedding. I am going to see how I am these next couple months with courses, and if its too much this early on I think I will postpone. (I wanted to do 2019 in the first place but FH does not want that long of an engagement)

The last 2-3 months are stressful, but I would say your most stressful time will be the last month by far. I felt like I was working 2 jobs that last month. We didn't have anything go wrong and everything was on time, went off without a hitch, and I was a total stress case up to the day before. That said, I was super zen and calm the at of because I got anything and everything I could done the days prior. Good luck!