How Non-traditional brides handle fussy traditional FIL's

We are skipping most of the traditions too. No bridal party, no bouquet or garter toss (I don't want my FH digging up my dress in a room full of people, how does that lead to questionable family values would be my response). No receiving line, it's outdated if you intend to have a full reception.

I would tell them you are having the parts that matter. A ceremony and a celebration. The rest isn't necessary to make a marriage.

Your day your way! End of story l

If you cant beat them join them lol do a bouquet toss and garter toss... Hand them to those that are complaining that you are not doing those things and let them toss them lol

I used the excuse that I did not want to make it awkward for the few people that will be there unmarried (very few.. Like 5 of marrying age) to be pointed out as single, they shut up when I seemed that I was being selfless I also said that I was not doing a receiving line because I felt that it was impersonal, and that I wanted to greet my guests at their tables so that I could chat with each one, that my guest were that important to me... THAT SHUT THEM UP lol

Pretty much everyone in the generation before me (and many in the generation before *them*, if you can believe it) has been divorced. I, on the other hand, have been with DH since high school. If anyone had started yapping at me about 'family values' I would have just said, "And your multiple divorces displayed *which* value?" and left it at that.

If you don't want to be so snarky (which is probably good) you could just go with, "We're keeping it it as a simple celebration of love." Repeat as necessary.

I'm not having a bridal party and probely not a bouquet & garter toss. With the bridal party I dont have any close friends (don't pity me I enjoy my introvert life style :]]). And my only family members who I could ask I would rather not give them the opportunity to start drama.

I honestly think people can be crazy when it comes to tradition. I would just remind them the importance or what you are celebrating at this "party".

If the problem is your future in-laws, then your FI needs to deal with them. Assuming he is on board with the wedding plans (and if he isn't, it's time he is), he says firmly, "This is what we have decided on together." His family, his problem.