How much to give my sister

I don’t think I’d give a gift either if that was someone else but if it was my sibling I’d still wanna do something small

Just because it is your sister does not mean she should be rewarded for her bad behavior. I've learned the hard way that the more you try to be the "bigger person" in situations, you are actually conveying to the person that you are accepting of the way they treat you and that they can continue to treat you in that manner and you will just let it slide. People need to be held accountable for their actions. I would send a card wishing her well in her marriage and leave it at that. I understand covid has everything all messed up, but it is not an excuse to throw etiquette completely out the window. If you are uninviting people to a wedding the very least you can do is make a phone call. A text several weeks after the decision was made is very inconsiderate and shows that the person really has no regards for your feelings or general etiquette. You're worth so much more than to allow yourself to be disrespected.

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Thanks, Sexypoodle I really appreciate your comment. Yes, I sent her a nice card and will send her a thoughtful token present. Yes, your right you can't control her response only my own.

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Thanks so much Melle for taking your time to write this comment.

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Thanks Jodie, To be honest I think once this wedding passes I will have very little contact with her. She has disrespected me for several years yet and told me to my face at my own wedding a few years ago that "it should have been her getting married and not me". She has alot of issues and this has made me reflect on her behaviour over the years. As she is my younger sister I have always made excuses for her but I think now is the time to let her go. I really appreciate your support in this.

You're not required to send her a gift. But a thoughtful letter blessing her day may go a long way.

I don't know why your sister uninvited you, and I don't need to know. But what I can say is don't take it personally and don't make it a topic of discussion. Just let it go and let her have the day she wants to have.

You are not obligated to send a gift or a card since that is only expected of invited guests. I absolutely would not send any amount of money in this situation (since your post sounds like cash is given in your social circle instead of purchased gifts from a registry). Blood relations are moot when she has already made her stance clear.

Given that you were uninvited for reasons outside of her control I would typically say send her a little something out of good graces.

But now that I saw she hasn't even invited your mother, instead choosing a SIL over her, that all goes out the window to me.

My petty side would come out at this point and buy the cheapest thing on their registry and send it with a .99 cent greeting card.

I can imagine how hurtful this can be. My sister would probably do the same thing if she had to cut her guests.
I understand and relate to giving a gift anyway. Maybe give her something she’d use in her kitchen? Or idk I’d probably give around $150-200.
Family is family. Hopefully you’ll make up. But I think you should always give a gift to a sibling. Treat it as if she eloped 💁🏼‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Many thanks Kristen for replying. Something for the kitchen is a great idea. They both love cooking.

I would give nothing. But, if it’s really important to you to give, them I would give a super inexpensive but meaningful gift off Etsy or write a card.

Nothing. She disinvited you via text. I’d actually stop talking to her completely