How much money to gift a good friend after pricey bachelorette?

My friend group never gifts cash to each other and wedding gifts between $50 and $100 are most common. I've never spent $500 on a bachelorette weekend, though. Honestly, i really wouldn't expect a gift after that, but I also wouldn't ask it in the first place. I have had to travel pretty far for weddings and in that case, and if money is tight, I would get a registry gift at the lower end of the range above. In general, you know that you should give what you can for your situation. If the receiver isn't happy with that, it's on them.

Honestly do what you can afford and write a heart felt letter in the card. Wether that be $25 or $100, do what you can without breaking the bank

Again I don't expect a gift. But probably a very heartfelt card and like $25-$50

Atleast $200 but that’s just me. In my circle you are spending normal prices.

Whatever you can afford is fine. I would personally give a minimum of $200 if H and I were attending. That’s what we’ve done for all our friends’ weddings, regardless of what we have spent on pre-wedding activities, shower gifts, travel, etc.

I explicitly told my bridal party that their gift to us is their presence and support, and I meant it 100%. I'll feel bad if I get anything more than a heartfelt letter because I know it would mean financial strain for them.
Being that your funds are tight, I think something like a date night gift could be great. After all the craziness of the wedding, a nice way for them to unwind together...It would be pretty inexpensive to put together a basket with wine, gourmet snacks (Marshalls/TJ Maxx is good for that stuff), and a movie they'd both enjoy. It could be as cheap as $20. I know money is more typical but I usually give actual items when I'm working with little money, as it can end up looking like it cost more than it did, and seem more personal.

Normally I get a card with a letter than something cute and personalized for the person!

Does she have a registry? I would get a smaller gift on the registry, then it seems more personal than just $20 or something.

It's common in my friend group to not give gifts if you're in the wedding party. If I can afford it, I like to give something small, $50 or less. It's expensive being in a wedding.

You're a really good friend!

Honestly? My gift would be a framed photo of your bachelorette party or shower and a heartfelt card lol. But seriously, since you weren't actually given the honor of being a bridesmaid but still spent all that money on her pre-wedding events, I think that taking it easy on a wedding gift is totally fine. Do what you can.

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Technically she's not in the bridal party, the bride only has a MOH, and a group of friends that are not bridesmaids, but the bride still expected them to plan parties, help with DIY projects, etc.

As a bride I wouldn't expect a gift, especially considering everything you've participated in and you're not even in the wedding party! Another option though would be a joint gift off the registry with the other girls in the same situation. I also like the idea of framed picture(s) from the previous parties and a nice card!

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Ah, yeah, I missed that. I still think a nice gift in the $50 range is sufficient. Maybe a little higher if you're not spending on dress/shoes/HMUA/etc and your SO is going.

I'm from the northeast region and in my circle and in your situation, we would give $100-$150 in cash if it is just you and with no plus one. If cash is not an option, a good alternative would be to get her something off her registry as well.

Honestly, I was the MOH in my friend's wedding last year and I didn't give a wedding gift. I was in school full time and barely working. I planned and paid for her bachelorette party 100% by myself, obviously bought my dress and $50 shoes she wanted me to wear, I helped her with planning, I did her makeup for the wedding, I helped set up everything the day of, and I was basically her DOC. I love her but it was hell and I was so tired the day of that once she cut the cake, my fiance and I had one dance and I peaced out. I felt like everything I did showed her how much she means to me and I would do it again if I had to. And she has been super appreciative ever since.