How much is too much for a bachelorette trip?

Let me get this straight - the MOH's dad (or bride's dad? I'm unclear on whose dad) is paying for 1/2 of your plane ticket and it's STILL working out to be that expensive per person? And you're flying within the state of Florida? Are you going from like Tallahassee to Miami or something?

If I were the MOH in this situation, I think I'd either be frantically researching lower-cost options or going back to the bride and telling her that I understood she had this vision for her bachelorette, but the logistics aren't feasible and to consider a change in location, change in date, dropping a day, etc. to make it more affordable for everyone. As a bride, I'd be MORTIFIED if I learned that my bachelorette was going to cost my girls that much out of pocket. I'd love to do a destination bachelorette because I love to travel, but will probably keep mine local for the sake of everyone I'd like to attend. People spend a lot of money to be in weddings so I'd want to be super cognizant of that when planning the bachelorette.

Actually, let's be real - if I were the MOH in this situation, the first thing I would've done is ask everyone what they were comfortable spending, how many days they'd be able to attend, etc before booking a single thing for this trip to avoid getting into this situation in the first place.

It’s not black and white. Everyone has thier range of affordability and also what they want. I’m having a week long international bach and as the bride I’m paying for chunks of it because it’s the experience I want. And it’s 100% understood if someone can’t afford it/can’t go and would be no hard feelings.


Think it’s all about communication with both what the bride wants and what all the bridesmaids can afford. If the bride would prefer a weekend long bachelorette with only 3 people vs a one night event with 8 people.. shouldnt that be her choice? Things just need to always be well communicated.

My bachelorette party was Thursday-Sunday and everyone paid that amount for lodging only. My matron and maid of honor paid for all decorations, however they discussed prices prior to booking. I agree with others it depends on your circle.

View Quoted Comment No, not brides choice if others are paying their share. They get at least 4,5,6 whatever votes to hers isf all are planning and paying. If the bride wants guaranteed choice of where, when, she becomes the hostess. She invites people, and she pays the full bill for everyone, then she gets 100% control as hostess.
As a guest of honor, the choice is not hers.