How much is too much for a bachelorette trip?

I think the main issue is the booking of the place before checking with others. Also, in my mind a four night bach is over the top. I’m not against destination bachs, but I’ve seen in my circles the trend creep from 2 nights to 3 and 4 and it’s not a trend I love. The cost is one thing, and the time away from work, family/sig others and just that long of constant partying...no thanks!

My friends and I travel a lot. Most of my circle is established. That being said, everyone is aware of cost before anything is booked.

That is a very long and expensive bach trip. I'd decline

View Quoted Comment I agree. I’m thinking three nights for mine - but Labor Day weekend! And the prices are SO affordable and everyone is aware and nobody is flying. I would never do 3 nights any other weekend, let alone 4.

I am shook! I’ve just decided on a 2 night escape to our wine region which is costing my girls $300 each and I was only comfortable with going ahead with it after I’d asked everyone and told them the approximate cost. I can’t imagine having $700pp for a 5 day trip sprung on you – wow!

I would budget that kind of money and time for a vacation. But I would never have vacationed with more than 1 single friend before marriage, certainly not for any weddings I have been in for years. Most, no more than 1-2 BM plus the bride that I have known. And certainly would not blow a week's take home as a PT to someone else's bachelorette. I go to 4-5 bach in a year, as does hubby, and would not go if just presented with an amount too high, or a stay too long.

What is “ a lot of money” is relative. It’s apparent that your friend group doesn’t usually spend that amount on your trips together. All you have to do is say no. 700$ for airfare and lodging for that many days is a good price point, that’s average for an off season trip. But again, you can easily decline her invitation. She shouldn’t have booked without consulting the entire group. That was inconsiderate. Maybe she can get her deposit back and you can go elsewhere for a shorter period of time.

$100 should be the bachelorette limit. Stop doing these over-the-top destination bachelorette parties please. Bridesmaids literally go into debt trying to make brides happy


I would have the MOH cancel the airbnb asap

Yes that is too much. I would decline the invite.

While it is a big number, I think it really depends on where you're going and how nice the place is that you're staying at! It's also Wed-Sunday, so that adds on a lot when booking Airbnbs!

To me, the price isn't what's concerning if everyone is agreeing that they can afford that! What is troubling in this situation, is that the person planning didn't seem to consult anyone before making plans lol. If not everyone in the group is comfortable paying that much, then I'd suggest you all getting together and suggesting to her a more affordable bach party. I mean even picking a different Airbnb/hotel could make a big difference cost wise! If she refuses to make adjustments, then it's not the end of the world if you decline the invitation. Yes it would suck to not be able to participate, but you don't want to go broke just for a bach. party....

View Quoted Comment She wants you to buy and wear specific outfits??

View Quoted Comment I’m worried if she is going to make US pay for these outfits - she hasn’t mentioned who is responsible for what yet when it comes to wardrobe so tbd on that. And so far, she has planned out EVERY outfit. Also, the price is only including one way airfare, it’s so much that her dad is paying for our one-way ticket there and we’re responsible for the way back.

View Quoted Comment I think at a certain point the host or the bride needs to be paying for this stuff (or father, doesnt matter). Even if your friends are wealthy, this is a lot to foist on them

I think it's crazy and would absolutely decline.

View Quoted Comment I agree, and I’m paying for my own wedding. She’s not. I’ve been an MOH before, I know the drill. Price breakdown on everything before anything is booked, including activities during the week that need money for reservations.

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This is kind of tricky. For my bachelorette coming up, we all decided on a 'wardrobe'. I'll wear white the first night and the girls will wear whatever they want, and the second night I will wear black and they'll wear white, and we're wearing colored wigs that I bought for us. I'm not buying any of their outfits, neither is the MOH. They all agreed on the outfit ideas and they've all bought their own clothes.

The only thing that seems off to me is the miscommunication with how much ya'll all are willing to spend. I wouldn't expect anyone to pay for your outfits.

Some people also can’t take that much time off work!

View Quoted Comment Yours is different. I’m being told to wear these outfits, with no communication who’s paying for it. Your girls all agreed beforehand. And everyone pretty much has black/white in their closet so I’d have no problem with that.


These are shirts I’m being told to wear are with FHs face on them, another tacky tshirt, and a super tacky dress that nobody would wear again.

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Ohhh okay, got it! If it's something like that I would think it would be provided for you. I was originally going to do ugly bridesmaids dresses for my bachelorette trip, and I was the one who went and looked for and bought those dresses. Same with the "bride tribe" t-shirts a lot of parties will wear! It seems like the MOH/bride just have a huge miscommunication with the party, to me!

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No that is not acceptable.