How much is too much for a bachelorette trip?

My take is is depends on your friend group. My friends and I are pretty much working/lower middle class and none of us would even dream of asking that of anyone.
I have some relatives who are upper middle class and do take pretty spendy trips for bach parties, but it’s all in their budgets.

View Quoted Comment Also on this, I recently took a job that puts me into the "upper class" in terms of salary and my circle is upper class. I *still* generally would rather spend my time and money on a vacation that I choose with my FH or family over a long, expensive bachelorette. If the group was close and we all wanted to go on the trip, that's one thing. But asking people to spend PTO and a lot of money on something like this is a huge ask of even people who can afford it.


I think if you're asking people to spend this much, it really has to be a collaborative planning process, and everyone should have the right to say "yeah technically I can afford it but that's not how I want to spend my money and PTO"

View Quoted Comment I totally forgot the PTO aspect! Even if you get PTO, saving it up take a while. And lots of people don’t get PTO at all!
My sister took me on a cruise a couple of years ago - her treat, so generous of her, she’s awesome! - and she gave me 10 months notice to save up my PTO.

I wouldn't say that amount is too much... I've spent way more than that for destination bachelorettes before. But the unacceptable part is the MOH not consulting you before planning the trip. I have never attended a bachelorette party before without being consulted about my budget before the planning process began. Also, Wednesday through Sunday is asking too much. I've attended quite a few destination bachelorettes, but they're usually over a long weekend or 3 nights maximum.

The way I see it, the main problem here is the MOH not consulting you about budget and time commitment before booking the trip.

That is A LOT of money. They should be considerate, not everyone has that kind of money. I am from FL, and most of my girls are from FL so we decided to just do my bachelorette there so that only me and 1 BM has to fly. One of the BM is from NY, so she declined which makes sense. The girls are now doing budget, and there's a lot of other small fees like food, games, gifts, etc. to cover. So that $700 will turn into like $1000 real fast.

View Quoted Comment Here’s the kicker, we’re in FL, flying IN fl

I've been to all different types of bachelorette weekends. I would say if its going from Wednesday to Sunday $700 actually seems fairly reasonable. However, I also find that timeframe to be a little excessive. As much as we'd all love to celebrate for that long it doesn't need to be 5 days, that's a lot of time and money to ask of your bridesmaids and friends. If I were you and you still wanted to celebrate then maybe go for only a few of the days and only have to pay for the days you're there. I know for mind I'm going to want a longer weekend but I also want to keep costs as low as I can for my friends.

I know personally I couldn't afford a $700 bachelorette trip. I mean $700 for a vacation Wednesday through Sunday sounds great, but not a bachelorette party. The most I would probably be able to afford to put out would be $200-250. I would probably decline.

Mine was about $500 per person but that included our airbnb, food, drinks, and everything. I recently paid $1500 for a bachelorette and even though it was super fun.. it was like a vacation I would take with my husband, not with a bunch of girls I don't know.

Whether or not it's ridiculous depends on the friend group and if pricing was talked about and agreed upon before plans were made or not. If someone told me that's how much it would cost for just airfare and a roof over my head I would turn around and walk away while absolutely laughing my face off. Once extra costs are factored in (food, drink, decorations, etc.) you'd likely end up spending way more than FH and I will be spending on our entire honeymoon. And, quite frankly, I would probably have about 14 hearts attacks if my ladies spent anywhere near that amount on mine. But that's me, and my friend group, and our financial situations. I've heard of people spending way more, which absolutely boggles my brain to no end...

If you're not comfortable with the amount, and especially if budget was not discussed with everyone ahead of time, then you absolutely need to talk to the MoH and put your foot down about what you're willing and able to do.

My friend did a 4 day destination Bach for hers, but it’s was about 800$ for everything, airfare and an all inclusive hotel. I think only thing extra we chipped in for was a small amount for decorations, a night out at this club, and some food at the airport. We also knew the costs upfront before making the decision if we wanted to attend. I also declined the spa day while we were there bc I didn’t wanna drop anymore money and she was cool with it. We had a fantastic time but it’s def a big commitment. if you don’t think you can or want to spend that much money I would def politely decline and offer to celebrate closer to your home or just skip it all together.. I personally wouldn’t choose that, because the people I would want to go I’m not sure would be able to make that happen given other commitments in their lives, but it’s not unheard of.

I don't think it's worth it, my bachelorette party sleepover cost over $900 alone, I couldn't even imagine having to spend that amount just for the plane fare and Airbnb.

I personally think that’s a little excessive considering that you guys may have to take off extra days for the wedding itself. I’ve always thought 2-3 days is sufficient enough for your girls and that you shouldn’t expect your bridal party to shell out so much money for a Bach trip. Obviously if you want to have more days then that’s fine but she definitely should’ve at least consulted you guys first about your budget and what you can afford since obviously everyone else has other things to focus on and pay for other than their wedding

View Quoted Comment Planning your clothes for her pictures? What a control freak. Even of she bought them, no way. I am not somebody's doll!
First it was not agreeing on a cost limit and length of time. But picking out clothes? No.

View Quoted Comment " I am not somebody's doll!" This is a mood. I need to put this on a tshirt for the next time I'm a bridesmaid

View Quoted Comment Absolutely agree. I'm my own person first and foremost, and a Bach isn't a fancy dress party. Having a theme that you want to incorporate is fine, but don't pick out my wardrobe for it! I'd already be in someone else's choice of a dress for the wedding day, and that is where I personally draw the line.

View Quoted Comment My feeling on robes and shirts getting ready, and jewelry gifts which really mean take off your jewelry, wear mine
No, thank you! You get to pick one dress, once.

It's way too much for only an Airbnb. :/

First, I think that's an extremely long "weekend" and I wouldn't be able to take that kind of time off work. Second, the price and cost per person should have been discussed with everybody invited before anything was booked. BMs are already spending money on a dress, probably shoes too. So to ask them to spend $700 more for an optional gathering is a lot. If it was me, I wouldn't be able to do it.
Maybe you can talk to the person who planned it all to see if something can be worked out.

Is this per person?? If so, I would respond with HECK no. Theres no reason they cant figure out something to do for her bachelorette that’s cheaper than that