How much $$ do you give?

It depends. For most family weddings we travel all the way across the country. FH and I typically spend anywhere from $1000-$1500 on travel, so we only give $100 in a card because that's what we can afford after traveling. If the wedding is in town we give $200-300.

If it is for a couple that I am not super close to, I give $40. If it is for someone who I am close to, or family, I give $60. For one of my best friends who is getting married next year, I will give more than that, but I'm not sure how much yet.

In the south (and by the south, I mean at least according to my southern mother, obviously not EVERYONE in the south), it is considered rude to give money, only gifts are appropriate, and typically gifts that "last a lifetime" (so no towels, linens, more like silver, china) to be given BEFORE the wedding. Everyone I've ever known would rather receive money, but I've never heard of giving money (instead of a gift) for a wedding until WW. May just be my mother is much older and more conservative though and I was raised that way. So we registered, even though FH didn't want to. Apparently we didn't register for stuff people wanted to give us, so instead they have been giving us random stuff we didn't register for and don't want to clutter up our house... :/

There really is no rule here. What you give is completely up to you. Couples should be grateful for any amount they receive. The "cover your plate" thing is NOT an etiquette requirement.

Personally, we usually give $250-$400 from both of us depending on relationship / closeness to the couple.

It definitely depends. If I receive an invitation, we're not that close, and decide not to go, we usually send a gift of the registry worth about $50.

The last wedding FH and I went to we only gifted $100. However, we spent about $800 on travel and another $200 on hotel. I wasn't in the wedding, but attended the bachelorette party where I spent about $500 and bought her $100 worth of lingerie. Had we not had to travel for the wedding, we would've gifted closer $250.

I had a friend who was really upset that the monetary gifts from the engagement party on average didn't cover each person's plate. Some people unfortunately expect that.

However, I agree with everyone saying give what you can afford based on circumstances and your relationship. For one recent wedding that was 3 hrs away and a room block wasn't offered, we gave $150 for 2 people. For an in town wedding we gave $200. That's about what I generally give.

I try to do $75-$100 per person but I can't always afford that. One year I went to 10 weddings in a year, 6 of them required out of state travel and hotels, 2 of them I was in and the bridesmaids dresses were over $200, 8 of them I also was invited to the shower and gave a gift then, 4 of them I also gave a gift at an engagement party. and 3 of them I went to a bachelorette party for that required a hotel stay. I was wedding broke that year so I gave what I could

We typically go with $200. Although I'm finding to cover plates it's upward to $300 for a couple. Not that it's necessary to cover your plate, you give what you can, but we try to come close to it.

I usually go by 100 pp, so 200 as a couple. Unless we are tight on funds or really not close to the couple, then maybe 150 as a couple.

There are lots of factors and I'm not sure that I'm terribly consistent. Personal relationship is number one. How much *i* put in to attending is another (particularly if I needed to fly or spend an extra night in a night in a hotel due to timing and location). Sometimes I give a little extra for particularly extravagant hosting, but that too depends on relationship.

As a couple unit we usually default at $250

The last wedding I went to solo I only gave $100 bc I had to travel and was already a few hundred in to attend

Give what you can afford.

It really depends

First how close we are makes an impact as does if other gifts (shower, etc. we're given along the way)

Second there are (though some here will deny it) huge regional and cultural differences on this. Some places it's rude not to cover your head others it's more about the gesture. Where I grew up it was typically day time ceremonies and cake and punch (not all weekend events with dinners and a bar) so most gifts were lower but there were a lot more people. (It's common in my hometown to literally send an invitation to the church opening it up to the entire congregation)

We received between $25-250. Most were in the $50-100 range and that's probably what we would give in most cases (friends, first cousins, etc) but I know some places that's way below the norm.

I guess I am pretty cheap, but at the same time it is also dependent on where you live.

I live in a very blue collar town and $50 is much appreciated...$100 is considered generous. I would never give $200 unless it was a close family member or close friend. That is too much in my opinion.

Generally I aim for $50-100 per person. I would probably give less if I had to travel a lot to attend, and have made it clear to my OOT guests that they do not need to give us anything as many of them are travelling a really long way.

Give what you can afford. I was taught to always cover the cost of your plate and give a gift. Never understood it though because the cost of the plate is not on the invitation

FH and I found a gift that kind of spoke to us in a "You should buy me!" way for the last wedding we went to...

Minimum $300 for FH and I. $400 if I'm in the bridal party (because they are get rally a closer friend and in Australia the bride pays for everything like dress, Hair and make up etc). More for best friends.

What I can afford

We do $250 minimum for the both os us. Family usually $300 - his best friend got $500 because I stopped FH from giving double that. I still do the math of where that amount could go in our budget -- a dj? Extra hour of open bar? Lol

Anyway, give what you can afford, I think is completely up to you.

My FH and I are broke as heck between paying for our wedding, recently moving into a new house, and dealing with a sick fur baby (he's okay now!). I'm a BM in a wedding next weekend and I have spent over $700 between the dress, the hotels, travel there, requires hair and make up, and I made her cake topper. She and her FH are getting a $40 coffee maker and that's all from me. I just can't afford to give anything else. I know she will understand. If I wasn't a BM I'd probably give $100 from FH and I.