How much $$ do you give?

It is really whatever you can afford.

My standard is $100 per person invited (me & H = $200) but if times are a little tight, like we went to a wedding shortly before our own, we only had enough for $75pp.

For my own wedding, I received anywhere from $50-250 pp.

I've given the same amount to every wedding we've been to because it's what we could afford ($50 for my FH and I). The last wedding I attended didn't have a registry so I couldn't get them a gift off of that. I ended up gifting money in the same amount that I gave their sibling at their wedding.

I agree with the $100 per person and $200 per couple. I don't think $150 per couple is unreasonable either.

I give $75-100 per person, so $150-200 from FH and I. I base it on what we can comfortably afford to give.

It depends. For his close friend we gave 250. MY aunt I gave 200 (not too close, but we talk) and for friends or family who we are not very close we will do 100 plus a gift from the registry.

@JJ love that answer!

When we got money at our engagement party, the envelopes that had $25 were definitely just as thoughtful and appreciated as the envelopes with $100+

It's based on how much I can afford at the time and my relationship with them.

I never give money, I always gift a actual gift. I gift after the wedding and it is based on several factors, how I was hosted, the relationship that is with the couple, etc.

Maybe it is just me, but I do not understand gifting after the wedding. I mean you are loved enough to be invited and the bride and groom have spent the money to have you there. I do not see weddings as a "biding for my gift" type thing. I also agree with the sentiment of gift what you can. You don't know other peoples situations so you can't really be picky. Be blessed and glad they have shown up to be apart of your day. We gift 200, for myself and the FH. Now if we have a lot going on we will do at least $100.

Really, what can you afford? you dont need to stress out over it.

I agree its based on what I can afford at the time and the status of our relationship. Alot of times I opt out of giving money and just buy a really nice gift.

Whatever you want to give and what you can afford. My husband gave $200 at the wedding we went to last weekend and I thought it was way too much. We are going to another wedding next weekend and he wants to give them $300 because it’s his little cousin and he thinks he owes it to him for not being there for him growing up or something. Apparently my husband thinks we have money growing on trees in our backyard. I think $50 is good enough.

What I can afford

We give what we can afford, we just attended a wedding that I would have loved to give more than we did but we just couldn't right now with our wedding being so close.

Pretty much my minimum is $100/pp attending. So if its both FH and I, we don't give less than $200.

If the couple is a close family member (say brother/sister/etc) or one of the besties, then up that to 125-150/pp.

If I am in the wedding, I still would gift $100/pp attending.

FH is in a wedding in November, and this will be the first wedding we've been to together. We are planning to give them $100 in a nice card. If there is a shower, we would give them a gift there as well.

I assume this will change as our financial situation changes, but right now that is what we can afford.

I have never given money for a wedding and never will. We were surprised that we received any money at all. Gifts off the registry are considered best etiquette in my circle. I actually had one of my MIL's friends apologize to me at the rehearsal dinner for giving us a check. It's considered very impersonal.

For amount of gift, I give in relation to how close I am with the couple. My favorite thing to do is look at their registry and then get them what they want at a better price. One of my friends only had a registry at a local gift store where her place settings were $80 a piece. For the price of 2 at that store, I was able to buy them a full 4 place setting set at BB&B. That way they can keep my China and return at the boutique store for other things they want.

I prefer to gift off the registry as well (most of my friends did for me), but it depends on my budget (did I have to travel to the wedding, was I in the bridal party, did I already give a shower gift or support an expensive bachelorette). A lot of people say 200 a couple on here, but that's high for my area and if I was traveling and spending on other things I mentioned I wouldn't be comfortable giving that with my other finances (normally spend 50 on a shower gift or towards bachelorette items for the bride). Most gifts at my wedding were 35-100 range (some a little higher). Same with my sister who recently got married. Both weddings required a lot of travel for people.

My FH and I give $150 from the both of us.

Except for the couple that had a cash bar. We gave them $100 and I think that was generous considering the cash bar and how far we had traveled just for their wedding.

I do $50 per person.