How many speeches?

Make sure you have someone assigned to be in control of the mic. Normally that is the DJ or your MC. Tell the BM and MOH that they are making a toast, not a speech and keep it to 3 minutes or less.

We are moving speeches until after dinner so no one is sitting there hungry. Best Man and Maid of Honor will make theirs and then my Dad. Have already let DJ know that it isn't open mic time and no one else should be making a speech or toast.

Omg, that's just nuts. I was at a wedding where 4 people spoke, and I thought that was too drawn out.

We're only having two (probably his siblings and my siblings giving two separate ones).

My dad plans on speaking, which is fine with me. If my MOH or his brothers (best men) want to speak they can, but we aren't forcing anyone to. FH and his younger brother were forced to speak at his oldest brother's wedding when they really didn't want to. FH had a little stage fright (made for a great speech, though) but his younger brother did well. He hated having to write something though.

My FH has 2 best men so they will both give one and only 1 on my side will give one. So 3 plus my dad's speech. Any more and it gets boring. Lol.

We are having my MOH, bestman and maybe his dad. I agree that was too many speeches and for long ppl will get bitrd

Oh man, that 2015 wedding would of left me reeling!

We aren't having any as I can't stand speeches. Just want to party and have a good time.

We’re probably only going with 2 speeches but we want everyone to have their plate before the speeches start

I think I'll do a welcome and thank you speech but that's about it.

Right after our grand entrance FH and I will be giving a welcome/thank you speech, 3 minutes tops, then we'll have lunch service. In the last fifteen minutes of the lunch service the BM and MOH will have 3 minutes each to give a toast. We stressed that we wanted this during the buffet service so that way people can eat while listening to the toasts. Plus it will be towards the end of lunch service so that everyone will have their chance to make it through the buffet line.

None for us
Best man didn't want to give a speech or a toast and I really didn't care if anyone does or not

I’m planning for 2: MOH and best man. I know the best man definitely wants to give a speech but my MOH might choose not to. My FFIL may give a quick speech before the prayer but it wouldn’t take too much time.

My dad, MOH, and the 2 Best Men but I'm hoping they can tag team that since they're close friends and hilarious together. Nobody else at the wedding will give a speech, and our DJs will not be handing the mic to anyone that's not on the list.

We might let people speak at the rehearsal dinner like our siblings but FBIL/FSIL don't crave the spotlight so I doubt that will happen.

We're doing ours during salads; we're having my dad, MOH and BM

We have a big wedding party (10 on each side) and we plan to keep speeches to a minimum of 5 ppl (this includes a presentation that his mom wants to do). Each person (except for FH's mom) will be instructed to keep speech at a minimum and not go over 2 mins each. I was at a recent wedding where everyone in the wedding party spoke (except for me) and it was lonnnnnnnnnnnng! I refuse to put my guest through the same thing.

The BM, my FBIL, has no desire to do a speech (which lets be honest, I'm slightly relieved) so if my MOH wants to she can, but otherwise we wont have any.

The BM and one of my bridesmaids are doing a very short speech (both 3 minutes or less).

ZERO! (okay, 1 if you count us thanking our families for coming)

My dad gave one during the salad course, and the BM/MOH gave theirs while cake was being cut and served. Honestly, I would have been happy with (and actually preferred to have) none, but my dad really wanted to, and when we asked the BM/MOH if they wanted to do one or not, they had already started working on theirs. So we fit them in during times people would be sitting anyway.

45 minutes is too much. Like, way, way too much.

Here's what I'm thinking so far:

- Dad will give welcome speech after introductions

- FH's pastor will pray over the food (my pastor is officiating)

- MOH Speech

- Best Men Speech (there are two)

Aside from that I don't think we'll do any more. I will say that a good speech can be one of the most memorable parts of weddings. I went to a wedding in October and the couple had done long distance the whole time, and so the Best man basically calculated how many miles the groom had driven every weekend over the course of however many years to see her. I didn't know the couple (we're good friends now) but I actually teared up! It was such a beautiful speech. The bride's sisters gave a speech but it was basically just a "Oh my god I'm so happy for you! Ah!" crying speech and it was meh.

ETA: The MOH and BM speeches will occur throughout dinner, so everyone will be eating and sitting anyway.