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Beginner August 2018

How many people should i invite?

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Kristen, on February 1, 2018 at 8:32 PM

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Hello all! I am getting married this August and am struggling with how many guests to invite. The ceremony venue holds a maximum of 100 people, but I figured not everyone will come to the ceremony so we are planning on inviting a little over 100 guests. The reception venue has a 100 guest count minimum and I obviously want at least 100 guests so I get my money's worth but can't invite too many more because I still have to pay for them and it's $50/ per plate. So far I have 125 guests on the list. How many people did you invite to your wedding vs how many came to the ceremony and reception? Hope this makes sense. Thanks in advance!

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Master October 2018
FMR2018 · on February 1, 2018 at 11:27 PM
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Then why did you bother asking? You're just wasting people's time.

What you are doing is rude. End of story.
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Katie · on February 2, 2018 at 2:15 AM
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If you had your mind made up then why would you bother asking if it's rude? Just because you think your friends and family are understanding doesn't mean you aren't going to hurt someone's feelings. Best of luck. I truly hope you don't lose any friendships over this.
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Beginner August 2018
Kristen · on February 2, 2018 at 9:00 AM
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It’s not a maximum capacity by fire Marshall it’s just a maximum on how many seats the church will have. Really just an approximation.
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stbmrs2019 · on February 2, 2018 at 10:11 AM
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This is why you do the guest list first then the venue. Also people will not tell you to your face they are upset about how you are going about things. No one was mean or rude. You asked a question, you got answers. Sorry if you don't like the answers who were given but posters are going to tell you the correct etiquette so that you do not have people talking about you behind your back for years to come.
I remember every wedding I go to and what is good and what is bad about them. I can tell you that even though I love FI's BFF, his wedding left a bad taste in my mouth. But I would absolutely not tell him to his face.
No one is going to stop you from doing what you are doing but at least think of your guests.
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VIP November 2018
starsinwaves · on February 2, 2018 at 11:09 AM
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You asked how many people you should invite. Overwhelmingly, people told you 100. You didn’t like the answer so now you’re calling everyone rude and are going to do what you want anyway.

People come here for advice because no one close to you is going to tell you something is rude or in poor taste when it comes to your wedding.
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Devoted April 2018
Vivian · on February 17, 2018 at 2:37 PM
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"If anyone gets offended they aren't forced to attend." So the only thing you care about if someone's offended is that they don't have to go? You don't care about hurting people that you care about?
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Kaitlin · on August 18, 2019 at 10:21 PM
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I think it is absolutely OK, and NOT rude to invite 50 people to the ceremony and then invite more people to the reception. A lot of friends and family that are not so close might even prefer only going to the reception so they can actually mingle with you and celebrate. It's YOUR wedding, and ultimately you can do whatever you want and what feels right. Even if SOME people might think it's "rude". That can be their opinion, they're not the one's paying for a wedding or getting married. Personally, i would not be offended to get invited to someone's reception, and not their ceremony, unless it was someone i was very very close with. I would be very careful with over inviting though. You just never know with that.
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