How many kids are too many kids in a wedding?

Honestly that is an awful lot. Are they all nieces and nephews that you feel obligated to include?

I don't think that is to many. At 8 & 11 I would make the girls junior bridesmaids and have them walk with the rest of the bridesmaids. I like the idea of a ring security group, but where will they be during the ceremony? It might look a little crowded up there.

I think that's too many. Who are all these kids?

I think that's cool!! I'm going to have 3 flower girls and two ring bearers. Our children and Nieces/nephews. We will have a designated "kid watcher" during the ceremony to make sure they know where to go... Etc

That's a few too many. Maybe have one of the boys be ring bearer and the others be ushers for grandparents, older guests, etc? As for the girls, I agree with junior bridesmaids for the older two and have the youngest be the flower girl.

One is too many.

Just kidding.

Kind of.

But that's wayyyy too many.

I'm having that same number of kids in our ceremony. Two boys (my nephew and my cousin's son) will be ring bearers and my other cousin's 3 girls will be flower girls. They will all walk down the aisle together with my grandmother so she can be surrounded by all of her great grand children. They have never all been in the same place at the same time, so I'm really excited for my grandma to have this special moment with them. The ages of the kids are 2-6, though, so mine is a little bit of a different scenario.

Seems crowded...but if they're all super important to you (like you can't imagine your wedding day without them in an honored position), go for it.

@love4slife - you have 5 ... she wants to have 7. 7 is kind of pushing it. I would do:

11 year old girl - junior bridesmaid or candle lighter

the 2 younger girls - flower girls

It's the 4 boys - yikes! How about 2 boys as ring bearers and 2 passing out programs or ushers for grandparents?

One. One is to many.

Also I feel some kind of way that you said 'squad of ring security'.

That seems like a lot to me. We have 3 rings bearers and 1 flower girl and we think that's still a lot.

We're having four girls and three boys. I'm not happy about it, but it's a long story - it just wasn't a battle I was interested in fighting. I'm sure it'll work out fine on the wedding day.

7 children seems like a lot to have in the bp. How many bridesmaids and groomsmen do you plan to have? Don't forget that having a bigger bp adds extra cost with gifts and flowers.

If they are yours and FHs kids, then definitely include them all. If they are nieces and nephews or other children you are close with, I would try to limit it a little bit.

It's your wedding have as many or few as you like.

The biggest thing I'm noticing is everyone says too many kids, but doesn't give a reason why...Is it because you would feel too overwhelmed or because you have seen or can think of a good logistical reason why it wouldn't work? I can understand that it might look crowded up there but we can simply have them sit down. I'm just curious to see if others have done this or seen it fail.

Hope you've got a wrangler on hand. that seems like a lot of kids to deal with. im sure if you brainstorm you can find a duty for all of them where it wont look chaotic

One.

@Kelli: I clearly can't count! Math is hard! I do agree 7 is too many, although the 11-year old could stand as a junior BM as others have suggested.

Don't do the sign thing, not many people are fans of that. Its cheesy.

ETA: If you are just going to have them sit, then let them be guests.

I fully believe that with that many children the procession looks very crowded. It's nice to include people, especially if they want to be included, but sometimes for simplicity you just need to say no.

Only you can make this decision, you can't chastise people for not having what you might consider a legitimate reason for not having that many kids. The reason is it looks odd, that you can't make a decision, and frankly kids of any age are generally unpredictable. That's why a lot of people now skip the FG and RB all together.